MiBella Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Ok.... so I've met this guy online and for the last couple of weeks we have been emailing eachother and calling eachother. We are both really into it and have deicided that we should meet up. We have seen many pictures of eachother so that is not a problem. I worried that by meeting it may ruin everything? Don't get me wrong, I really really want to meet him so that we can make this thing real BUT, in anyones experience... do these things usually work out?
AlmostMarried77 Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 i think its got as good a chance as any... just as always, don't go in with massive expectations. Treat that first meeting as a first date then take it from there.
glittergurl Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I married my internet love, and we've been together for almost 3 years now, so yeah Only advise I would give is: if you're not feeling it physically-wise the first time you meet in person, don't get all disappointed. Even though you've seen pictures, I can guarantee you it's always different in person, and it usually takes a little while to get used to being around each other physically. It could be love at first sight, or physical attraction could come later; there are no rules, it really depends. But if you have already talked a lot and enjoy talking to each other, and you know for sure he's not some kind of freak then you should definitely go for it. Good luck!
Author MiBella Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 thanks so much I was a little worried about the physical side of things. it seems that we have connected on an emotional and mental level, its like... what could compare? but the physical side to a relationship is very important to me as i'm sure it is to him. i'm just going to go with an open mind and heart and hope for the best
AlmostMarried77 Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I married my internet love Jinx I married mine too - 2 years of suppressed love on both side thanks to what looked like an impossible distance, and now we can't get enough of each other. Plus had the bonus of seeing what each other was like with other people as we just had to settle as being friends before we decided we'd had enough and go for it with each other. However 2 years is totally different to 2 weeks. So my initial post still stands
AlmostMarried77 Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I was a little worried about the physical side of things. In my experience, if the emotional and mental connections are there then the physical follows naturally (barring initial awkwardsness). Unless one person has been projecting a false impression.
glittergurl Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I'm so excited for you, Bella! When I first met my husband in real life, I thought "awww shizzzzz :(" He was a bit shorter than I had expected, and even though he looked like on the pictures, it's just, well, different; you know? lol But then we had such a blast So, well **sigh** And then I got to throw his fugly clothes away and I bought him a whole new wardrobe, so now he looks perfect lol
konfuzd Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I tried the online thing several years ago. I met a wicked guy, we had a long term relationship. It was a great relationship... I ended up breaking it off to pursue my career in a different city, but I still think he's a great guy. When I arrived in this new city, I didn't know a single person, so I tried the internet thing again, since it was successful before. This time was totally different! I went on several dates, but no one turned out to be who they said they were in person... I got very turned off by the whole thing, and gave up completely! I think there are a few diamonds in the rough doing the internet thing, and you are very lucky if you come across one, but don't get your hopes up, as there are many people who are one way while behind the computer screen, and a totally different person face-to-face. I personally would never do it again.
Outcast Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I know someone who knows two people who have gotten engaged to people they met on dating sites. Like in the rest of the dating world, you have to sift through a fair bit of chaff to find the wheat.
zingzoo Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I am a guy and, 4 out of 5 times, it takes me a few dates to start feeling some sort of chemistry with the girl that I met online. I like to email back and forth for about 2 weeks before asking her out. If we haven't managed to meet after 3 weeks, I move on.
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