scobro Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 I find reading helps me deal with all this devastation and change I am going through due to my separation/divorce.I have been on my own for a month now and am trying to read as much as I can on how to cope.Do you have any helpful websites or books/articles you would recommend and I could check out on the internet or buy at the bookstore? Thanks!!!
RecordProducer Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 Scobro, I was devastated when my ex-h left me with two little kids, but it turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me. Because my marriage was not really happy and I would have never met my current BF - the love of my life. It took me a couple years to get over, but now I can't even imagine myself in taht marriage again. I am so happy in love. So the best consolation for you is the hope that you will meet the right person sooner or later and you'll get over your break-up/divorce and never look back. Hang on and keep your chin up! It's not the end of the world!
933KJL Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 I can recommend a few good books if you have kiddies.
Author scobro Posted October 30, 2005 Author Posted October 30, 2005 It took me a couple years to get over, What did you do to cope any suggestions?
933KJL Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 Get out. Not necessarily dating, but do somethign. Don't sit around looking for ways to cope. Immerse yourself at work---if you own your own business dive in and grow it. If you work for someone, show him or her your all and get that big raise you deserve. If you can do it, take a mini vacation ALONE. Go to some new city or island and spend a long weekend. I am with RP on this one, and the devastation goes away for sure. And for most of us, life is much better afterwards. We all will cry and shed tears, but you need to look at this time in your life as a door closing on this chapter but another one is just beginning to open. I know---corny as hell, but there is a LOT of truth in it!
RecordProducer Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 What did you do to cope any suggestions? Ha! I can give you my example as to what you should NOT do. You should NOT: call her, go out with her, try to reconcile, drink, hook up with the wrong people/sleep with strangers, cherish hopes about you two, think about her... If I had to go through it now, I would simply relax, watch movies, socialize with people, read books... try to make my life easier and more fun. Avoid stress, but keep busy. Engage in some new hobby or activity.
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