Lishy Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 Well i went and met the guy and his friends for his birthday ...... he changed the venue which was excellent so i didnt see me bouncer friend!!!!!! (which is great) Anyway this other guy was out who is really nice. A few years older than me and been in the same situation. We have known each other a month and he came food shopping with me in the week. I kinda like him but I am not sure how i really feel. I asked him around for dinner one night this week and he seemed keen but i am not sure if its a good idea. He has been seeing a girl for the last 3 months but says it is just casual and that she knows that. I wont mess with another girls man so its a weird situation. I dont even know what he thinks about me although I get the feeling he does kinda like me. We both flirt with each other but also with others as well. Time will tell i guess lol. Any tips for me on this one?
Art_Critic Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 No tips Lishy.. But I do think you already know the answer on how to proceed.. Read your post I wont mess with another girls man That says it all to me on how to proceed.. Eyes open as well
Hot Coco Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 Ok, and since I'm earning a reputation on here as Big Sis and Mother (or is that MF???) Don't sleep with him too soon!!!!
Author Lishy Posted October 30, 2005 Author Posted October 30, 2005 I have made a pact with myself that I will NOT break - I wont have sex with anyone unless it is an exclusive relationship. I have only made that mistake once in 34 years and I am not willing to do it again - It hurt like hell and I am not the kinda girl who can seperate sex with love/feelings. I dont even know what i really feel about this guy. He is just so nice and i love 'nice' - When we got back from shopping he noticed the exterior door on my flat was broken and he rang up and reported it for me - It's been so long since a guy has done anything for me without me asking!!!!!! Oh I dont even know why i am discussing this - I wouldnt do anything with him as he is with someone What do I say if he rings me about the dinner invite?
Hot Coco Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 Wait a minute. Wait a minute. He's WITH someone? You left out the most important part! He's a nice guy? But he's with someone and wants to date you? What do you say when he calls? What exactly do you mean when you say he's with someone?
Author Lishy Posted October 30, 2005 Author Posted October 30, 2005 He has been seeing a girl for the last 3 months but says it is just casual and that she knows that. I wont mess with another girls man so its a weird situation. I dont even know what he thinks about me although I get the feeling he does kinda like me I didnt miss it out babe - It's the reason i am so confused.
Author Lishy Posted October 30, 2005 Author Posted October 30, 2005 He hasnt mentioned dating me either lol
Art_Critic Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 He hasnt mentioned dating me either lol Lishy.. i think that if he mentions dating you then he would only be in it for the sex.. Not a relationship
Author Lishy Posted October 30, 2005 Author Posted October 30, 2005 I agree Art but he isnt that kind of guy .... I have also let him know i dont mess with someone elses guy - But we share those 'looks' every now and then He is such a good listener and he understands everything i feel right now. I just need to be a friend with him and no more i guess. (unless he ditches the girl lol)
slubberdegullion Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 I just need to be a friend with him and no more i guess. Uh oh. It looks like another unsuspecting victim is about to enter the purgatory of the "friend zone...";)
FataMorgana Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I just need to be a friend with him and no more i guess. (unless he ditches the girl lol) This seems to be best option for you Lishy. Don't want to put your hopes up too much and then get hurt because he is with the other girl ( and chooses to be so). Better to play it safe as friends for both of you, and see what happens... well if he does ditch the other girl, go girl
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