whichwayisup Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Well GOLD PILE, sorry to be blunt but I'm suspecting more and more that you are just posting frivolous bullshyt just to have fun on LS... I don't believe this story one bit. I'm sorry you weren't around lastnight ALPHA. You missed an incredible thread but it got dumped... Let's say it was the thread of the Century on LS! It was a fun, funny, no no no, F**K'N hysterical thread. OK...Onto GP now... Thanks to WWIU and basic (and others) for good advice. Anytime bro. You know we were just poking fun lastnight, and making you laugh, right? No offense... I just wanted feedback on how not to hurt her and still help. Be as honest with her as you can. There is no need to hide feelings, thoughts or idea's from her. Maybe there's some mutual "emotional" attachment between you two, but that is all. Don't read into it and as I mentioned before in another post, be very clear with her - Set the boundries up in the sand and don't cross them...Meaning do not have that conversation that could leave more ?'s than answers...You catchin' my drift here. PS Lilly ran away...
loony Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 GP wants to run with the nun, his little hun, into the sun to have some fun and eat a bun.
Hot Coco Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I'm sorry you weren't around lastnight ALPHA. You missed an incredible thread but it got dumped... Let's say it was the thread of the Century on LS! It was a fun, funny, no no no, F**K'N hysterical thread. OK...Onto GP now... Anytime bro. You know we were just poking fun lastnight, and making you laugh, right? No offense... Be as honest with her as you can. There is no need to hide feelings, thoughts or idea's from her. Maybe there's some mutual "emotional" attachment between you two, but that is all. Don't read into it and as I mentioned before in another post, be very clear with her - Set the boundries up in the sand and don't cross them...Meaning do not have that conversation that could leave more ?'s than answers...You catchin' my drift here. PS Lilly ran away... Witch, your pussy ran away? And you know what? All that pussy talk is probably what got that thread dumped! Really, it was pretty tame until you came in with your pussy problem. No one listened to me. You should have started a separate pussy thread and we may have still been able to help KJ with his relationship issue. Them's the breaks! (I never laughed so hard in my life though. It really WAS hysterical!)
whichwayisup Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Witch, your pussy ran away? And you know what? All that pussy talk is probably what got that thread dumped! Really, it was pretty tame until you came in with your pussy problem. No one listened to me. You should have started a separate pussy thread and we may have still been able to help KJ with his relationship issue. Them's the breaks! (I never laughed so hard in my life though. It really WAS hysterical!) We can't thread steal here, otherwise this thread will get dumped...So, No comment here from the peanut factory...
Hot Coco Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Yes, you're right. Sorry. Advice for GP? Hmmm...usually I have a lot to say about pretty much anything. For some reason I don't really know what to say here. How can you hurt her by helping her? Is it that you think she'll fall for you if you're nice to her? Well, that's kind of presumptous BUT giving you the benefit of the doubt, you can't control someone else's feelings. She'll have to deal with it. Doesn't mean you shouldn't try to help her. Just don't offer to take shed her habit or anything. No innuendo. Pretend you're a Boy Scout or something.
Author Gold Pile Posted November 1, 2005 Author Posted November 1, 2005 Anytime bro. You know we were just poking fun lastnight, and making you laugh, right? No offense... No harm. I even slipped in a fun reply of my own. And I still got useful feedback here. (I was concerned I wouldn't get serious replies after 933's joke)
Author Gold Pile Posted November 1, 2005 Author Posted November 1, 2005 I didn't have a feeling she was sneaking calls to me at all. No hushed tones etc. I never thought of her living situation regarding such things. We talk about everything but nothing that would offend most anyhow. Too late, I told her about meeting MS before I decided to do it. Just didn't want to do anything behind her back. Everytime I help someone (that's not often) it ends up costing me more financially and emotionally than I expected....this is no exception. Things are getting crazy....I'll post when things get clearer.
Craig Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 GP WWIU has twice suggested being honest with your new friend the nun, setting boundaries, drawing a line in the sand, etc. What do you think about that approach to your dilemma?
Author Gold Pile Posted November 1, 2005 Author Posted November 1, 2005 GP WWIU has twice suggested being honest with your new friend the nun, setting boundaries, drawing a line in the sand, etc. What do you think about that approach to your dilemma? Hi C , I thought I indicated in another post that her (and others) input was well thought of. Not that I haven't been 99% honest with her (a GP record! ) I'm making every effort now to make clear the boundaries...I'm just doing it little at a time. I don't want to read her the riot act, I want her feelings unhurt. I think that part is going well. Other things are going crazy...but still developing
Art_Critic Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 Everytime I help someone (that's not often) it ends up costing me more financially and emotionally than I expected....this is no exception. Things are getting crazy....I'll post when things get clearer. If helping someone GP makes you tired or emotionly wacked then I think that you haven't adopted the right mindset about giving of yourself.. You are still trying to change an outcome with your help/generosity When you give try and give from the heart and without expectations and you will feel that what you have done was a good thing not a taxing bad thing. If the nun issue is killing you I would suggest that you pull back and let her deal with her issues and you move on to deal with yours.. DO NC..!
933KJL Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 Why are you going to read a nun the "riot act" (off topic, does anyone really know what the riot act is?) Other things are going crazy...but still developing Venturing a guess here...the MS is also very attractive and upon witnessing your charms is also considering leaving her calling?
whichwayisup Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 The thing is, she is a nun, not a child. Don't sugar coat it and take your time. Setting boundries isn't that hard. She may/may not be hurt, who knows? IS she very sensitive and weepy? I mean, will her world crush if boundries are set and you are not 'intimate' with her? Intimate meaning emotionally attached. Not sexual. As I mentioned earlier, just be straight forward with her. Doesn't have to go badly at all, infact the more honest you are the more appreciative I think she will be.
lindya Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 Why are you going to read a nun the "riot act" (off topic, does anyone really know what the riot act is?) Google girl to the rescue... "The 1715 Riot Act was an attempt to strengthen the power of the civil authorities when threatened with riotous behaviour. The act made it a serious crime for members of a crowd of twelve or more people to refuse to disperse within an hour of being ordered to do so by a magistrate. One of the problems for magistrates was actually reading the Riot Act during a serious disturbance. For example, after the Peterloo Massacre in Manchester, most of the demonstrators that were convicted claimed that they had not heard the Riot Act being read. The Riot Act was unsuccessful in controlling a series of disturbances including the 1743 Gin Riots, the 1768 St George's Massacre and the 1780 Gordon Riots."
Author Gold Pile Posted November 2, 2005 Author Posted November 2, 2005 If helping someone GP makes you tired or emotionly wacked then I think that you haven't adopted the right mindset about giving of yourself.. You are still trying to change an outcome with your help/generosity When you give try and give from the heart and without expectations and you will feel that what you have done was a good thing not a taxing bad thing. Interesting take Art. It never occurred to me that a taxing feel was not normal for a deed from the heart. I'll sleep on it, and ponder it later. I'm tired.
Author Gold Pile Posted November 2, 2005 Author Posted November 2, 2005 Why are you going to read a nun the "riot act" (off topic, does anyone really know what the riot act is?) Venturing a guess here...the MS is also very attractive and upon witnessing your charms is also considering leaving her calling? Very funny There is a possibility that something is going to happen that will make (even) you know that GP is telling the truth. It's just too crazy at the moment.
Author Gold Pile Posted November 2, 2005 Author Posted November 2, 2005 The thing is, she is a nun, not a child. Don't sugar coat it and take your time. Setting boundries isn't that hard. She may/may not be hurt, who knows? IS she very sensitive and weepy? I mean, will her world crush if boundries are set and you are not 'intimate' with her? Intimate meaning emotionally attached. Not sexual. As I mentioned earlier, just be straight forward with her. Doesn't have to go badly at all, infact the more honest you are the more appreciative I think she will be. Today we had the most frank talk. I feel much better about her expectations. I think her little crush (wish I could think of a better word) was stopped early enough that it doesn't hurt. She knows she can depend on my help in moving her life in a new direction. After talking with MS, I've learned that they have a pretty good system for helping the transition. I wouldn't be as vital as I thought, but I'm not tatally useless.
whichwayisup Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 Today we had the most frank talk. I feel much better about her expectations. I think her little crush (wish I could think of a better word) was stopped early enough that it doesn't hurt. She knows she can depend on my help in moving her life in a new direction. After talking with MS, I've learned that they have a pretty good system for helping the transition. I wouldn't be as vital as I thought, but I'm not tatally useless. I'm glad that things went well. Tatally! (Sorry, me being me, I can't resist stuff like that!) You're being a good friend to her by making yourself available if she needs some help. Remember the boundries and all will be OK. But now, something tells me that those lines won't be crossed. Steer away from "those" kinds of conversations... ....
Author Gold Pile Posted November 4, 2005 Author Posted November 4, 2005 bump....... Hi 933, Wha cha talkin bout 933? If I read your editorial slant correctly, you think (...) more to follow. You're right. An odd thing well beyond my control is happening. I haven't absorbed it all yet, and not sure how it will effect me....will post soon. No, it has nothing to do with sex and it will make you comfortable with the truthfulness of my post.
whichwayisup Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 Hi 933, Wha cha talkin bout 933? If I read your editorial slant correctly, you think (...) more to follow. You're right. An odd thing well beyond my control is happening. I haven't absorbed it all yet, and not sure how it will effect me....will post soon. No, it has nothing to do with sex and it will make you comfortable with the truthfulness of my post. Bump - He was bumping the thread up, that's all. Ha, you think he wanted to bump you? I didn't mean it had to do with sex. At all. I'm talking about the emotional side of the friendship GP. (some) Women get emotionally attached to men easily and I think she's not had that kind of attention from men in years - SO ofcourse she is going to react on some level to the friendship. You know what I'm saying? When I used the ... it's more like, there's more to come soon. Things happening in progress ya know?
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