SRKMama Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 Hi everyone, I am having some issues with my boyfriend. He is 21 and I am 24. We had been friends for a while before we started dating. I knew I cared a lot for him before we started dating, but know I know that I Love him. My issues is this, On wednsday I called him because I wanted him to come over for a little while just to sit with me because I was under a lot of stress. I called him on his lunch break and he said he would call me back after work. When he called the first thing that he said was "you know, I still have to fix the break light on my car." I blew a gasket and just starting yelling at him and told him to do whatever he wanted to do because I didn't care. He hung up on me. I tried to call him back a little while later to apologise and tell him what was going on, but I only got his voicemail. He still won't answer my phone calls or anything. I feel really bad about yelling at him. I miss him a lot. I am so afraid that he is going to finally come over, but just to break things off. What do I do. I would do anything to work things out. I am not usually like that, but I have been so stressed out about everything else in my life. I guess I was feeling like he was just blowing me off. I can't eat, and I can't sleep at night.
Lishy Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 Oh honey I understand how you feel .... You needed him and he wasnt there because of a stupid brake light! You was right to feel hurt, but not for shouting at him. I understand your logic completely (cos i get whacked out when someone i care for lets me down) but you have to learn to comminicate what you are feeling. No-one with any self respect would allow someone to shout at them. Let him calm down and dont contact him for a while. He may call you within a few days (fingers crossed) If he loves you he wont let this come between you for too long. Maybe he has had this sort of thing happen to him in the past and it brought back bad memories. Just chill and give him a few days to think things through. Good luck - Keep us informed!!!!!!
Author SRKMama Posted October 30, 2005 Author Posted October 30, 2005 The problem is, is my dad got put back in ICU. I am really worried that he isn't going to make it. I really need my boyfriends support right now, but he won't return my phone calls because he says he isn't ready to talk to me yet.
Lishy Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 Well if that is the case and he knows what has happened then the guy is a PRlCK!!!!!!! Unless you want a relationship where your guy is not there for you in great times of need then stick with it - This guy seems to have the compassion of a slug!!!!!! I just lost my dad 2 weeks ago and i know how you feel right now - You need SUPPORT not a fool who doesnt know his ass from his elbow!! You was right for shouting at him babes - Dont call him anymore he doesnt deserve you. Hold on to your family and friends who will be there for you un-conditionally and dont worry about him right now. Oh babe i am feeling for you right now i will pray for your daddy!!!!!
Author SRKMama Posted October 30, 2005 Author Posted October 30, 2005 he doesn't know about my dad yet. I haven't had the oppertunity yet. I blew a gasket before I could.
slubberdegullion Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 First of all, I'm sorry about your dad, and I hope everything turns out ok. Now, to the point: Maybe the brake light wasn't a big deal to you, but it was to him. After all, depending on your jurisdiction, driving around without proper brake lights may be grounds for having the car impounded as an unsafe vehicle. So blowing up at him was, at the very least, inappropriate. Erupting in a fit of unjust anger and venting all your stress on him when all he wanted to do was make sure his vehicle was safe to drive would give any rational man pause. If I were in his shoes I wouldn't want to be in contact either. With all that said, though, it's more likely that he just wants to give you time to settle down. He'll probably be in contact shortly.
Topper Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 SRKmama and Lishy I am so sorry to hear about your fathers I lost my father about a year ago. My prayers go out to both of you. As Slubber said, That break light could bea major fine and or worse. If he was already given a Fix It ticket and not had it fixed they could impound the car. One of the things that woman do that drives us men insane is to assume that we are somehow mind readers. Woman already know that when it comes to relationships we are clueless idiots. So what makes you think that once we are in a relationship we somehow become theses magical genius mind readers? Call him leave a message about what is going on with your Dad. If he is any kind of real man he will be there for you. If not then it is good to find out now before you invest more time into him.
Lishy Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 Great advice topper and thank you for your condolences
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