anotherconfusedlover Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 Ok I'll make this short. My ex left me and immediately went to live with another guy. I wasn't strong enough to do the NC thing. I finally just asked her on the phone to please leave me alone and NC for two months at least. She agreed. 5 hours later she came over and flunted herself in front me. Streching out on my bed, I felt like she was trying to tease me or something. Why would someone do that? I didn't tell her at the time. But the next day she came over again (this time I called her, doh!) and I asked her why did you do that? She said because she was worried about me. Anyone think that could even be remotely true? I was very serious with her when I said it hurts me too much to see you, I can't see you for 2 months. Maybe she just forgot. I don't understand.
freckles3131 Posted October 30, 2005 Posted October 30, 2005 As soon as you stood your ground by asking for 2 months N/C she felt like she lost part of her hold on you.....she went over there to make sure you still would be missing her and feeding her ego. I think she doesn't want you to do N/C because then you might actually LET HER GO...and that would suck for her.....not having you as her "constant" or "the guy that will always be her puppet"......some women like to have men pine away for them...makes them feel good...she was trying to make you weak....keep you wanting/missing her....keep you from moving on.....most definitely...(from a woman's perspective....not something I would do...but I know woman who feed off of this.....need to keep their lapdogs laying in wait, pineing away....feeding their ego.
Author anotherconfusedlover Posted October 30, 2005 Author Posted October 30, 2005 As soon as you stood your ground by asking for 2 months N/C she felt like she lost part of her hold on you.....she went over there to make sure you still would be missing her and feeding her ego. I think she doesn't want you to do N/C because then you might actually LET HER GO... thanks freckles i had a feeling that was why. it's good to have that confirmed because I really don't like having someone make me feel crazy because they are crazy. It all comes down to her being a selfish, narcissist bitch. I freaking hate that. I just wish her new BF would give her all the ego feed that she desires. Because I don't have the gumption to be locking her out or never answering her communication. Hopefully it wil be just a matter of time before she has enough of an ego feed from other people than to be using me for it. FYI if you really love someone than it is not possible to hurt them with NC. I accept that it is over. But I want to be the better, stronger person in this because I know I am.
J dub Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Because I don't have the gumption to be locking her out or never answering her communication. .... But I want to be the better, stronger person in this because I know I am. Oops, I seemed to have spotted a huge contradiction there ACL. Stronger would mean not allowing her to make you feel like sh*t.... You know, standing up for yourself, enforcing that you mean business...all that stuff that you refuse to apply to your problem.
scobro Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Lock your door,don't answer her calls,do not call her,do not e-mail her
cj_gal Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Like freckles said...bingo...I just broke up with a guy..he still wanted to hangout..probably just for sex...I don't need that in my life..he got upset when I told him I am moving on with my life and have plans for spring break already with a friend..a guy..who is a great friend..He didn't like it..I try to ignore him between class..he just smiles at me..then he'll stand by me and elbow me..like I'm supposed to melt..inside I do..but I can't show it..I'm scared..So I know how you feel..That is just what I am getting..I broke down this morning and IM'd him..stupid..kicks self....we talked..I told him I had plans and he said he was going to Canada for the weekend with the guys..I know why...You just feel like the entire time you were together was a lie...don't you..good luck and I hope you find someone who treats you like you deserve..be strong..you can do it..
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