SweetVixen07 Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 James(name changed) and I have been talking pretty much since the beginning of school. We're both college students. He's been consisently a great guy to hang out with and a complete gentleman...we have similar things in common and our sense of humor is about the same also. He's pretty much my ideal guy but he's kinda shy also. When I'm around him and his friend, it seems like James and I talk non-stop and we are very flirtacious with one another and laugh at each others jokes. But when it's just him and I interacting one on one...we both fall silent. Like take example earlier tonight, James and I went to the grocery store. In the car, we barely even spoke...if we did talk it was about how cold the weather was...basically chit chat. Whenever we came up to a stop light he would check his phone...I guess for text messages and even made a few phone calls. I couldn't get mad b/c it's not like I was helping the awkward situation. Another example is when he walks me back to my dorm hall...before we are about to part ways...we just stand there and chit chat or make a dumb joke but barely make eye contact. He usually says something about hanging out the next day...or giving me a call....which baffles my mind b/c I think its awkward...so why would he like to hang out again? What I would like to know is why he might be acting like this and how can I help improve the situation? Tiffy
AlmostMarried77 Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 Are you serious?? I'm 99% certain this guy really likes you and the reason he goes all quiet when you're alone is cause he wants to ask you out but can't summon up the courage - or doesn't want to risk loosing a friend (or both!). The checking the phone is a nervous distraction. He's trying to relax and take his mind off what he really wants to do. If you think he's boyfriend material (and it sounds like you do) then you either need to ask him yourself or make it perfectly clear that you want him to ask you. And when i say perfectly clear, I mean with out a shadow of a doubt... he is a guy and to top it off he's probably feeling messed up about the whole thing. (And I probably shouldn't say this, but if that is your real photo then he'd be a fool to say no, especially as you seem really sweet too)
glittergurl Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 OOOOooooooo Tiffy! Go for it!! He likes you that's what makes him shy when it's just the two of you.
blue16 Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 From a guys perspective, I agree with the above assessments. I used to be exactly like that with a particular girl I liked. In a group, it's very flirty and fun - great conversation. Then when it's one on one I'd get nervous and suddenly the conversation isn't as good. Ask him out. If he's anything like I was (really shy etc) then you'll have to make your intentions obvious. Girls are always so indirect, so make sure he knows what you really want: him. Best of luck.
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