ITHURTZ Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 Im confused if this girl likes me or not. She started working at my gym about 2 months ago and after done lifting I sit down and talk to her. We can pretty much talk and keep it going. I already got the basics out of the way like if she has a bf etc. She doesnt and has broken up with him since april 2005 she says.Says she still talks to him. Anyway After a while of talking to her I decided to ask her if she wanted to do something one weekend, about 2 weeks ago, her sister just got married so her relatives were over from PA ( I am in IL) and she said if they were still there she couldnt. SO that never happend. I asked again this week and again she was busy, halloween party on sat and going to her grandmas on sunday. Im sure shes busy cause she said this is a busy month for her. It just discourages me, I used to doing things when I ask. I was also talking to her one time, I think last week, and just for kicks we were throwing words back and forth. Kinda harshness. For example she said I hope I break my foot so I cant come in and work out. And I said fine I dont have to come in and see you. Kept going from there until I was calling her ugly, skank etc, and she was calling me names back. Now this wasnt a fight, we were just messing around throwing words back and forth. Then she said dont talk to me. So I played the game and turned my chair around and didnt talk to her for the rest of the 30min I was there and talked to the other guy. Turns out she made a note that said KICK ME and put it on my back! At that time I had no clue who did it though, so I was looking to see who did it and she had this sly look on her face, I asked her if she did it and she said someting about its not my hand writing. Then she got a big smile so I knew it was her. I also shook her hand thursday cause I was messing around and I didnt let go ( I was sitting down with my arm over the counter) so she kept her hand there and I said OOO NICE AND WARM and she took her other hand and put it on top of that hand that she was already holding. I dunno if that means anything but I liked that alot.. SO ya I am confused and have no clue what to do.. I havent dated since HS and I graduated in 2002, 21yo now so any help would be greatful. And my appearance isnt bad, I just dont care to go out and search for a girl. http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=11873771&Mytoken=1180E759-12C8-AEA0-269D14A34CA2137410878641 thats me Did I mention I like her ALOT
konfuzd Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 Dude, you are totally over thinking everything. Relax...IMO if a girl is blowing you off simply because she's not interested, she will typically just tell you she's busy. Letting you know she has genuine reasons for being unavailable tells you she'd like to, but authentically, she can't. Sounds like you've been doing a lot of flirting, and there's a connection there... if she's still talking to her ex, she may be putting up a bit of a wall just to protect herself as she's healing. Sounds like it's not too high though, so you should be able to hop right over in no time, or smash right through it! Good luck, and just have fun with it!!!
Mary3 Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 Nice chest on your myspace profile Oh, by the way , many times when someone says they are too busy to spend time with you that means : not interested....It may not be the case but you need to expect it might be,..
Author ITHURTZ Posted October 29, 2005 Author Posted October 29, 2005 THanks:) Ya so next week I might ask again for this weekend and if she says shes busy then Ill just ask her why she cant say she doesnt wanna hang out. See what she says to that. Atleast if she didnt you think she wouldnt keep talking to me. I forgot to mention also I told her last week that this week would be the last time Id ask her to hang out ( I just wanted to see what she said) and then she said "well what if I ask you". So that has to be good somewhere down the line
Yamaha Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 If you keep asking to do something with her and she becomes uncomfortable and tries to avoid you then you better stop. Girls don't want to reject you face to face so they try to let you down easy. I would back off and she if she seeks you out. Make her pursue you to see if she is really interested.
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