ycagwyw Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 I am espeically interested in guys response to this. What if you tell someone "I love you" and there is no ILU return on investment? I understand that it is about sharing the feeling, and not about expecting a return. Also - please do not respond about how it should not be said unless it is genuine yada yada. Those are all givens. I said it because I meant it, and I thought I was prepared for the no ROI, but now that it is out there unreturned, I feel really weird. I don't feel like opening up like that anymore. I feel like a jackass bascially. Any thoughts on this happy people?
witabix Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 I know where you are coming from, I have always been the first one in my relationships to say those words. Why feel bad if there is no response? I really don't know, but yes it does feel wierd. I take the opinion that saying those three little words is what your heart is about, its up to the other person how they respond. Don't worry if there is no response, you are NOT a jackass, regardless of the response. Ok its cool if the OP feels the same way and says so, and its cool if they feel the same and don't feel like they can say something in return. To be honest its cool whatever happens IMO. Not everyone is as open, they may have heard those words before and it turned out to be bull, remember its their view I am talking about. My ex-wife after 13 years of marriage said she never really loved me, I really wish she had said that at the start. Keep it out there, if you keep it to yourself it ain't much use to antone!!!
Author ycagwyw Posted October 28, 2005 Author Posted October 28, 2005 I know what you say is true in my head, but my heart feels kind of crushed by this. It has been over a year we have been together. I didn't expect him to lay it out there first, but I thought if I layed the groundwork, he would follow. Again -- I would rather hear nothing than something insincere, but I would mostly rather that he love me too.
Author ycagwyw Posted October 28, 2005 Author Posted October 28, 2005 ILU = I love you ROI = Return on Investment
wahaha1 Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 What if you tell someone "I love you" and there is no ILU return on investment? I had this experience before, the worsest thing was that, I sent the guy an email, telling him about ILH. The email seemed being sent to a black hole in space and I heard nothing back. I felt really bad, ROI was -ve. When you tell somebody that ILU, actually you have set yourself up for expectation, and if you don't hear the same thing back, you will be really disappointed. If you don't have any expectation, you just don't bother to say ILU explicitly.
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