Everdream Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Hi! Okay, here's my problem: I'm currently in my sophmore year of college and have yet to have a boyfriend. It didn't really bother me in highschool because I was very active with sports and extracurricular activities but now that i'm in college and all of my friends have boyfriends, I feel left out. When I look back at my life, I've realized that I never seemed to have any guys that were interested in me. When it comes to guys, I'm always the person approaching them and then it's real awkward because they seem to get real quiet. Are guys afraid of me? I'm 6' and athletic. As for my looks, I don't feel pretty, but I have had numerous strangers ask me if I was a model, and of course my family and friends say I'm beautiful. I get a lot of stares (especially from guys) when I walk from class to class but it just makes me so self conscious! Whenever I'm around a guy I'm interested in, I get extremely nervous and look like a total idiot! Please, Help Me!!
alphamale Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 most men are attracted to the feminine girly-girl types. take a look at your personality, what you wear, how you act, etc.... men generally are not interested in females with a lot of male qualities in them.
lindya Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Are guys afraid of me? I'm 6' and athletic. As for my looks, I don't feel pretty, but I have had numerous strangers ask me if I was a model, and of course my family and friends say I'm beautiful. I get a lot of stares (especially from guys) when I walk from class to class but it just makes me so self conscious! Whenever I'm around a guy I'm interested in, I get extremely nervous and look like a total idiot! Please, Help Me!! I think you can take it from other people's comments and reactions that you fit into the "beautiful person" category. It could well be that guys are intimidated - and, of course, if you're nervous around them then that's going to increase their feelings of nervousness. Some guys do prefer women to be a bit shorter than them, but then again people are getting taller so there shouldn't be a particular shortage of tall guys from you to choose from...and, of course, you have the luxury of looking fantastic in a variety of clothes. I'm jealous! If people are asking you if you're a model, have you ever considered maybe going in for that sort of work on a part-time basis? Why not exploit your assets?
Blackfrost Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 If you are 6' tall, then I'm sure you do intimidate alot of guys - the majority of guys are shorties, but us 6'+ and taller love tall women, because we don't have to bend in half just to kiss our girls
elijahBailey Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 Are guys afraid of me? I'm 6' that's tall. As for lookin' like a model, well, I'd gawk at them and admire them from afar, but yeah, I wouldn't have the courage to date someone taller than me when they're on heels but hey that's just me. I'm sure you'll find someone else do doesn't mind all that.
Neptune Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 What`s going on here seems remarkable, if not impossible, but true. I interpret things to be that you are one of those young women that are so attractive that guys tremble within sight of you. Yes, height adds to the equation. But, you need to understand that you are presenting yourself in a way that guys are intimidated. And that is a fact. Because an attractive woman, and make no mistake....you are attractive, that has a warm personality, will have to run from guys. You need to become aware of the body language you are using, which is based on your insecurity, that is causing the guys to keep their distance. Believe me, it is there! Give yourself time, and learn to open up around guys you like. Your image in body language terms would be called closure. Most of the time the guys you are around likely presume you have some high powered boyfriend and they don`t stand a chance. Hey, I knew there was a reason I didn`t go out dancing tonight. It was just to tell you this:)
Neptune Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 Notice the last line you have in your original post....when your are around guys you are interested in you get extremely nervous. That is the most important thing. Your nervous ways are interpreted as being uninterested. There are not many guys that can get past that. So, just work on relaxing around guys you like. Just don`t take any crap from guys because with patience (and your learning to relax) good things will happen. To the delight of some lucky guy.
cj_gal Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I don't know what you look like..but you probably do intimidate them..I just broke off a relationship with a guy that took 6 weeks to talk to me..He told me I was intimidating..HUH!!!why..he said all the guys at school(college)think I'm hot and that I could have any one of them..they are just afraid that I am a b***h because of how I dress and carry myself..So don't feel alone,.I'm there with ya:D ...I go home and talk to my mom and she makes me feel alot better..she said there is someone out there that won't be afraid of you and will love you know matter what you wear or look like..I am in modeling school also and have my life planned out..to be a lawyer or profiler...and it seems some guys are scared that I will be too high matainance for them..I love clothes and I shop alot of thrift stores and ebay..for the best deals..so they don't know what I spend..I read alot that guys like jeans and sneakers and boxers on girls..that's great and I do that..except for the sneakers..not into them except for the gym...but I also like to feel good on the outside as well on the inside..So don't let it get you down..the right guy will walk up to you and not be scared or intimidated by you..and it will feel good..I have a guy friend who I met at a party over a year ago..he is 7 years older than me..but I tell you what..what a guy..not afraid of me..or my looks and always there to talk to..but he is secure in himself and the age helps..good luck...
FataMorgana Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Hi! Are guys afraid of me? I'm 6' and athletic. As for my looks, I don't feel pretty, but I have had numerous strangers ask me if I was a model, and of course my family and friends say I'm beautiful. I get a lot of stares (especially from guys) when I walk from class to class but it just makes me so self conscious! Whenever I'm around a guy I'm interested in, I get extremely nervous and look like a total idiot! Please, Help Me!! hi Everdream, sorry to say it but the answer to your question is yes, most guys would be intimidated by you. Reading your quote above, it's like I posted myself a few years back. I am also 6' and athletic and have been through the same as you are experiencing for most of my life. I guess you need to learn to live with it and act on it appropiatelly. I had heaps of guys telling me they felt so intimidated and never thought they'd strand a chance with me, etc. Most of the times it's your attitude, being friendly and chatty and easy going will put people at ease and if you are interested in someone just let them know, approach them and make a joke realating to your height to let them know it's not a problem for you. Some guys will jump at the chance before you know it. I don't mind shorter guys, have dated quite a few in my life. Some guys will have a problem with you being taller, but some won't, if you like someone just go for it and let them know... and see how it goes. good luck, hardest things is to accept your height and learn to live and be content with it, it did take me quite a few years to get there, but managed now, hope you do too
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