Guinevere04 Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year. In the last month, we have gotten where we can't go one day without an argument. I hate it, because I love him so much and I know he loves me. We argue over ridiculous things and he says I always have an attitude. I think he is always mad at me. I just wish I could put my finger on what has happened to us to make us so edgey to each other and work it out. I do not want to give up and neither does he. One thing that ALWAYS starts an argument is how we pick on each other about cheating. Like if I say I have a late meeting at work, he will say "yeah right, what's his name?" I dont think he really thinks I would cheat but even though he's picking, I still feel like I am being accused. But you dont want to get to the point jokes are off limits, either. We are both committed to each other and want to treat each other in the best possible way. I wish we could just hit a "reset" button and start over.
Art_Critic Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Learning to not punch someones hot buttons in a relationship comes with maturity. You guys need to have a serious talk about hot buttons and how pushing them is a low blow.. People who respect each other and how they feel don't push their SO's buttons that they know will create an argument.. You guys just need to realize what you are doing and stop it..
slubberdegullion Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 It sounds like he's trying to tell you something. Maybe he's been burned in the past; I don't know, but if it's that much of an issue, both you and he have some serious communicating to do.
Author Guinevere04 Posted October 28, 2005 Author Posted October 28, 2005 I just don't know where to start, but I am not ready to give up.
Art_Critic Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Start by sitting down with him and telling him how much he means to you and how much the fighting is bothering you. Then go from there.. If he is just having a go of it and wants to work on it he will tell you
slubberdegullion Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Try something like this: "It really bothers me when you suggest that I'm cheating. It makes me feel unappreciated, and that you don't trust me. Maybe you're just trying to be funny or cute, but it hurts me. A lot." Then go from there and see where the conversation leads. The point is to be non-confrontational and to use statements that express how his comments impact you. Good luck. I have a hunch that you and he are going to be ok.
slubberdegullion Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 A_C... do you think we're twins that were separated at birth??
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