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Investing in a Relationship (kind of long)


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I'm dating this successful entrepreneur who seems to be just as into me as I am into him. I kind of look up to him for financial wisdom, so I asked him to point me in the right direction as far as investments are concerned. He pointed me to this one thing that I'm not too sure about, but what really made me concerned was that when I left him a voice msg telling him I was going to move forward with it, he called me back sounding really excited and we had the longest conversation ever. Part of me feels like I should go with the investment because I did ask for the advice and I want to trust him, but then the other part of me is slightly uncomfortable with the risk involved with the investment. This is the first advice he's given me so I think it would seem kinda flaky if I didn't listen, but then again I don't think I should be mixing business with pleasure anyhow, so should how I "seem" from a relationship POV matter when it's time to talk money? I instinctively do trust him, but I am concerned that he could be using the fact that I'm into him to lure me into something that could potentially benefit him but not be the best thing for me. It could also be that he's truly happy that I'm listening to/trusting/doing business (which he loves more than anything) with him, but I'm a little concerned that I may be being naive. The investment isn't very large so I'm leaning towards trying it anyway just to see what happens, but I'd still like an opinion.

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Oh, I can guarantee you, if your gut feeling is telling you that your money is not safe in that investment; then don't do it. I don't know the guy, and I don't know if he's just aware that you really like him, and whether he's manipulating your funds or not, but if you ain't feeling it, don't go for it.

 

I'd rather appear flaky to some guy than end up broke as a joke.

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I would never do it. Go with your gut and if he's not doing it for his own benefit you'll know by his reaction. If he IS doing it for his benefit, you'll also know by his reaction. This will tell you the kind of guy he is right off the bat! To me, that's worth more right there than whatever return you may or may not get from the investment.

 

I'd just tell him that that kind of risk is a little out of your comfort zone and you hope he understands and that maybe down the line there might be another opportunity for something you might be more comfortable with. I'd tell him that I hope he still feels like he could advise me of future opportunities even though I'm passing on this one.

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Great advice! Thank you so much!

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Hey Classi, let us know how it turns out!

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