allaboutchoices Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 OK, I have this customer who is interesting to me. He hasn't shown any signs of liking me, we have talked few times. I would like to get to know this guy better, but I don't know much about him. I do not have a clue whether or not he is seeing someone. All I know is that he is interested in many things I like. So here is my question: Guys - If a girl asked you out, would you admit if you had a gf? - If he was single, is it akward for a girl to ask a guy out? I don't really have a problem with that, but I don't wanna scare him before I even get to know him better. - How would you feel if a girl asked you out for a beer? - Should I just ask him if he would like to have a beer, or should I ask if he had a gf first? Or should I just skip the whole gf thing and hope he would be truthful if he had one? For girls who have asked guys out before: - How was it? Was it a problem? - What are your experiences?
slubberdegullion Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 If a girl asked you out, would you admit if you had a gf?If asked, yes. If he was single, is it akward for a girl to ask a guy out?No, not at all How would you feel if a girl asked you out for a beer? Flattered and appreciative Should I just ask him if he would like to have a beer, or should I ask if he had a gf first?Go out for a pint, and then work it into the conversation.
Woggle Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Asl him out. Nothing wrong with it at all. Guys like when females take some initiative.
glittergurl Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 lol I've asked a guy out once. I was working behind a counter, and he was a customer ... I noticed right away he liked me, because he even smashed his face into the glass exit door while staring at me. Hahah It made me laugh so hard!!! I asked him out right away, he said yes, and we were boyfriend/girlfriend for several months. The relationship didn't last, but that's because there were lots of little issues that have nothing to do with this specific topic. Still a good memory though He was so sweet and funny. So yeah, definitely, if you're feeling it, ask him a few questions (try to find out if he's single), and then try to exchange your numbers. Then call him and ask him out! I don't think guys have any problem with girls asking them out. I think they even like it because it makes things easier for them.
RecordProducer Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 I've asked a few guys out and each time ended up being used as a ONS. I would suggest that you flirt a little, smile, ask him if he has a GF (all in a subtle way!) so that he figures that you like him. In that way you'd give him a chance to ask YOU out without having the feeling that you're chasing him.
slubberdegullion Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 ONS = One Night Stand (although I suppose it could mean Oral Nookie Specialist)
glittergurl Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Ahh okay, thanks! I'm having a hard time keeping up with all those letters, like OW, MM, SS, ehhhh? And DH is "dear husband", right? Who the f?ck says that in the middle of a sentence? lol
slubberdegullion Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Anytime I heard the word "dear" from my ex, I started looking for cover.
glittergurl Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Anytime I heard the word "dear" from my ex, I started looking for cover. haha lol
RecordProducer Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 ONS = One Night Stand That's what I meant. And DH is "dear husband", right? Who the f?ck says that in the middle of a sentence? lol Yeah, like "My DH beats me every day."
glittergurl Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Yeah, like "My DH beats me every day." LMAO I wouldn't be surprised to read that one on this forum, at some point.
Author allaboutchoices Posted October 28, 2005 Author Posted October 28, 2005 Well, he didn't show up today, so I can sleep on it for few days. I don't wanna ask him out out, just for a beer to get to know him better. I'd rather make friends then boyfriends, I really don't want a R yet. I guess if I ask him for a beer it will sound like a date, huh?
wahaha1 Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 For girls who have asked guys out before: - How was it? Was it a problem? No. Not at all. I was asking for a meal together or so, just don't take this meal too serious, think about a casual lunch / dinner with a new friend... - What are your experiences? This seemed to encourage the guy a lot, and he took bigger move after this. Of course, the guy has to be interested in you in order to do this.
Lights Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Guys - If a girl asked you out, would you admit if you had a gf? If I had a girlfriend at the time, yes. - If he was single, is it akward for a girl to ask a guy out? I don't really have a problem with that, but I don't wanna scare him before I even get to know him better. Nope. I'd be flattered. - How would you feel if a girl asked you out for a beer? If that happened, I'd not really know what to do, since I gave up alcohol some years ago. If I was interested in her, I wouldn't want to rebuff the invitation, but I'd tell her that I'm not exactly a drinker. - Should I just ask him if he would like to have a beer, or should I ask if he had a gf first? Or should I just skip the whole gf thing and hope he would be truthful if he had one? The other person's relationship status isn't isn't really something anyone can do anything about. Asking about it first or not asking about it first won't make a difference if you have reason to suspect he is lying. If there isn't reason to suspect he is taken and would lie, you're worrying way too much. Go ahead and ask, if he interests you. It's good that there are women like you around. Have fun!
Author allaboutchoices Posted October 28, 2005 Author Posted October 28, 2005 Thanks, I will let you know how it went
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