GivenUp0083 Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 One of my problems in asking girls out on a date, is that I haven't been clear enough when I ask them to establish it to seem like a date. Instead, in my mind I ask a girl out, and she sees it as just friends hanging out or doing something fun. So I've been told to be more direct and flirtatious when I ask them out to make it seem like I'm asking as a date instead of being too casual about it. So in a situation, a girl I've been semi-friends with. We are friends, but not close friends, we talk maybe twice a week and never hang out or anything together. She recently has talked to me about a guy she's been sort of seeing but he dumped her. He told her he "liked her but didn't think it would work". She was bummed out and frustrated. We were talking and she was saying how she hates guys right now and then asks me "how come you guys are so retarded?" So here is the money line I say to her to ask her out on a date.........."well how about this.....sometime next week if you aren't too busy, how about I take you out sometime, and maybe I can show you not all guys are as bad as you think?" Is that straightforward enough?
allaboutchoices Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 Still sounds like friends to me. Skip the 'how about if you are not too busy..." thing, just ask her out. I have a different issue. I don't know how to ask a guy out:D
Author GivenUp0083 Posted October 28, 2005 Author Posted October 28, 2005 What do you mean "just ask her out"? that's what I pretty much did. I even said that I'd show her that not all guys are bad like in a flirtatious way. You don't think she got the hint?
elijahBailey Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 yer in the friends zone. Very little chance you can get out of there. She already mentioned other guys in your presence...... sorry.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted October 28, 2005 Author Posted October 28, 2005 Yes, but I've even asked her in the past if a girl talks about other guys does that mean he's just a friend and not dateable? She said no. She has DATED HER FRIENDS in the past. Trust me, I'm the first one to recognize friend zone as I've been in it many times, but I don't even think this girl HAS a friend zone. By the way, a little update, she said she'd go out with me. And from most girls I've told about and told them word for word the converstation, they said that she probably got the hint that I'm intereted. The date isn't for a few days yet, but it's been left up to me on where to take her. Any ideas? I was thinking a movie or dinner. Also, any tips of flirting moves or things I can do to send a message to her that I am interested in more than just friends would be helpful. I graduate soon anyways so I don't care if I lose our "friendship" so I have nothing to lose. I'm going for it. Any advice is welcome.
elijahBailey Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 The date isn't for a few days yet, but it's been left up to me on where to take her. Any ideas? dinner and movie at your house. you may get lucky.....
Author GivenUp0083 Posted October 29, 2005 Author Posted October 29, 2005 not exactly looking to get lucky, I can get ass anytime, I'm looking for a relationship with someone I care about.
Neptune Posted October 29, 2005 Posted October 29, 2005 Hey, if ther ain`t no ass,,,,you are in the friends zone:mad:
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