highselfesteem Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 i met this girl and she was flirting with me intensely and trying to get me and get my attention. i am 28 and shes 28. i wasnt really that into her at first but we went on some dates. when i started going on dates with her, her tune changed and she began putting her bag in between of us and talking about other men. like she would show me pics of her going to las vegas with her ex bf and began texting another guy blatantly in front of me. she doesnt respond to my txts always and if i ask her why she didnt respond to me she says things "i dont respond when im in the company of good people" she mentions how she is also seeing another guy and how she comes over to her house and he makes her orange juice and how he has a lot of money. she follows me, unfollows me, and follows me again on social media. when she follows me, she watches every single one of my stories. i went to see her at work today at the taco truck she works at and joked with her that she should text me to come over every time shes working and to give me 50% discount she responded saying "you will never receive such a text from me even i dont get a 50% discount" how do u perceive her behavior toward me? what should i do about her?
Author highselfesteem Posted November 20, 2022 Author Posted November 20, 2022 Just now, smackie9 said: Run!.............................. Thats a bit drastic. Maybe she just acts funny with new men. What do you think is going on? What will likely happen if I give her another month or so? I knew her for a little over a month so far. How do you think she will react if I dont talk to her for a month?
smackie9 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 (edited) Her talking about other men, and texting another guy in front of you is fun? What am I missing here? She's an attention getter and uses guys like tissue. Again run! Edited November 20, 2022 by smackie9 1
Wiseman2 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 7 minutes ago, highselfesteem said: she mentions how she is also seeing another guy. i went to see her at work today at the taco truck she works at and joked with her that she should text me to come over every time shes working and to give me 50% discount she responded saying "you will never receive such a text from me even i dont get a 50% discount" how do u perceive her behavior toward me? what should i do about her? She's not only uninterested, she's bit rude. If seeing someone is this much of a headache, it's not worth your time or energy. 2
Author highselfesteem Posted November 20, 2022 Author Posted November 20, 2022 Just now, smackie9 said: Her talking about other men, and texting another guy in front of you is fun? What am I missing here? I think she is actually doing that purposefully but I do not know why. Do you have any idea why she brings up, messages, and shows photos of other men to me on dates? I would note that she often says these men have a lot of money and really like her a lot and treat her well. I only knew her for about a month cause she moved here from out of town. I havent been to her place yet. She first told me she lives with a girl but then joked she lives with a guy. What is your best guess on whats going on with her?
Author highselfesteem Posted November 20, 2022 Author Posted November 20, 2022 2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: She's not only uninterested, she's bit rude. If seeing someone is this much of a headache, it's not worth your time or energy. I dont know if shes completely uninterested. She was all over me the first time I met her.
smackie9 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 ya the push and pull away thing won't work on her because she's the one doing it.
smackie9 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 Why she does it? for the attention, the ego boost, she likes guys desiring her. You ain't gonna get anything special out of that.
Author highselfesteem Posted November 20, 2022 Author Posted November 20, 2022 Just now, smackie9 said: Why she does it? for the attention, the ego boost, she likes guys desiring her. You ain't gonna get anything special out of that. So is the best guess is that she does this to many guys (including the ones she shows me) and that she shows my picture to those other guys haha?
smackie9 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 It's call pumpin her own tires. Trying to make herself out to be all that and a bag of chips.
Author highselfesteem Posted November 20, 2022 Author Posted November 20, 2022 1 minute ago, smackie9 said: It's call pumpin her own tires. Trying to make herself out to be all that and a bag of chips. She does make herself out to be a lot for someone without any real life goals. I am wondering, do you think she has an established boyfriend (who could be one of the guys shes showing me) behind the scenes who I dont know about?
Wiseman2 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 25 minutes ago, highselfesteem said: she began putting her bag in between of us and talking about other men. like she would show me pics of her going to las vegas with her ex bf and began texting another guy blatantly in front of me. she mentions how she is also seeing another guy and how she comes over to her house and he makes her orange juice and how he has a lot of money. This is friendzone behavior. You can chase her if you want, but it seems like a losing proposition. 1 1
Author highselfesteem Posted November 20, 2022 Author Posted November 20, 2022 Just now, Wiseman2 said: This is friendzone behavior. You can chase her if you want, but it seems like a losing proposition. When I first met her, she started touching me and was showing off her body to me. Thats not entirely friend zone. She also was viewing my stories on social media 5 mins after they were posted for some time.
basil67 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 She doesn't sound stable enough to have an established boyfriend
basil67 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 Just now, highselfesteem said: When I first met her, she started touching me and was showing off her body to me. Thats not entirely friend zone. She also was viewing my stories on social media 5 mins after they were posted for some time. It's classic attention seeking behaviour. It does not mean that she wants a relationship with you 2
Author highselfesteem Posted November 20, 2022 Author Posted November 20, 2022 Just now, basil67 said: She doesn't sound stable enough to have an established boyfriend She told me she was engaged twice before but didnt have kids yet
Author highselfesteem Posted November 20, 2022 Author Posted November 20, 2022 2 minutes ago, basil67 said: She doesn't sound stable enough to have an established boyfriend Why do you think shes unstable?
basil67 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 Just now, highselfesteem said: Why do you think shes unstable? On/off Hot/cold = unstable
basil67 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 2 minutes ago, highselfesteem said: She told me she was engaged twice before but didnt have kids yet Two failed engagements is also not a good look 1
basil67 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 @highselfesteem have you ever had a loving and well functioning relationship before?
Author highselfesteem Posted November 20, 2022 Author Posted November 20, 2022 4 minutes ago, basil67 said: @highselfesteem have you ever had a loving and well functioning relationship before? At the beginning, yes. Typically, I find out my girlfriends are flawed like a year down the road. She is already rubbing men and pretending to be disinterested in me a month later.
basil67 Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 So you find out they are flawed a year or so later. With hindsight, were there red flags you ignored? Because ignoring red flags is exactly what you're doing with this new one. I mean, why would you be interested in a woman who is rubbing men and pretending to be disinterested in me a month later? Further, what makes you think that she's "pretending" to be disinterested? She sounds genuinely disinterested to me. 3
NuevoYorko Posted November 20, 2022 Posted November 20, 2022 (edited) 45 minutes ago, highselfesteem said: I think she is actually doing that purposefully but I do not know why. Do you have any idea why she brings up, messages, and shows photos of other men to me on dates? Because she is 1) disrespectful in general (good reason right there to cut this short) and 2) not into you (another good reason to drop her and move on) P.S. Every woman, like the rest of humanity, has flaws. Edited November 20, 2022 by NuevoYorko
Author highselfesteem Posted November 20, 2022 Author Posted November 20, 2022 I think theres one important fact I omitted. She told me that she went to vegas with her ex bf and now shes telling me theres guy Mark who likes her a lot and who she spends time with her and texts her a lot. She says she just met Mark. I asked for Mark's full name and looked him up and he posted a video of him being in Las Vegas at the same time when she was with her ex. Do you think this is just coincedental or do you think there is more history to this Mark guy?
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