ellygelly Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 Hi! Situationship ended after about 5 months. We agreed to be “friends” but we still had sex. Cool. Im capable of managing my expectations. Instead of texting me or reaching out to say “hey,” he sends me instagram reels or tik toks. At the beginning of our “dating” period, I told him that i love funny content and he should share the good ones. Fast forward to a month ago, he said he “isn’t available for me” and doesn't want to lead me on. I was thankful for the honesty. So, why does he continue to reach out via memes/videos? Most of them are just funny, a couple are sexual or crass. Why does he send anything? Is this “flirting?”
stillafool Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 30 minutes ago, ellygelly said: hy does he send anything? Is this “flirting?” No he's ended it. Now he's acting as a friend sending memes/videos. Are you okay being just friends? 1
Author ellygelly Posted January 16, 2023 Author Posted January 16, 2023 Yeah I thought so but two days ago he said “we aren’t just friends.” I’d be okay with that, though.
Author ellygelly Posted January 16, 2023 Author Posted January 16, 2023 3 minutes ago, stillafool said: No he's ended it. Now he's acting as a friend sending memes/videos. Are you okay being just friends? Yeah I thought so but two days ago he said “we aren’t just friends.” I’d be okay with that, though.
basil67 Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 10 minutes ago, ellygelly said: Yeah I thought so but two days ago he said “we aren’t just friends.” I’d be okay with that, though. So did you ask him "so what are we?" If someone's words confuse you, don't be afraid to clarify what they mean
Author ellygelly Posted January 16, 2023 Author Posted January 16, 2023 3 minutes ago, basil67 said: So did you ask him "so what are we?" If someone's words confuse you, don't be afraid to clarify what they mean I did. He said he wasn’t sure what we were doing. I wasn’t really worried about it because I know we aren’t in a committed relationship. I think it was all more than what we both bargained for. Neither of us were looking for anything serious and it became more intimate than expected
basil67 Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 So from what I understand, you're still having sex with this guy and he sends you occasional memes/videos. I think it means that sometimes he sees something which he thinks you'll appreciate and sends it to you.
stillafool Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 In your last thread you said you were going to take a step back since he was clear that what you guy had wasn't going to go further than sex. What happened?
stillafool Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 28 minutes ago, ellygelly said: Yeah I thought so but two days ago he said “we aren’t just friends.” I’d be okay with that, though. Did you ask him "what does that mean?"
basil67 Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 10 minutes ago, basil67 said: So from what I understand, you're still having sex with this guy and he sends you occasional memes/videos. I think it means that sometimes he sees something which he thinks you'll appreciate and sends it to you. Or are you not having sex with him? I'm confused.
Author ellygelly Posted January 16, 2023 Author Posted January 16, 2023 8 minutes ago, basil67 said: Or are you not having sex with him? I'm confused. We had sex the last time we saw each other. At this point, it feels like he’s confused and thus wasting my time.
Author ellygelly Posted January 16, 2023 Author Posted January 16, 2023 19 minutes ago, stillafool said: In your last thread you said you were going to take a step back since he was clear that what you guy had wasn't going to go further than sex. What happened? Too many old fashions and poor judgment
stillafool Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 11 minutes ago, ellygelly said: At this point, it feels like he’s confused and thus wasting my time. I see. So really nothing has changed since your last thread. Well at least you're comfortable with the way things are now.
Alpacalia Posted January 17, 2023 Posted January 17, 2023 My impression is that he is trying to go fishing. If you catch my drift. If it bothers you, ignore it.
Author ellygelly Posted January 17, 2023 Author Posted January 17, 2023 Just now, Alpacalia said: My impression is that he is trying to go fishing. If you catch my drift. If it bothers you, ignore it. I’m sorry I don’t know what that means
Alpacalia Posted January 17, 2023 Posted January 17, 2023 Just now, ellygelly said: I’m sorry I don’t know what that means Maybe he wants round two. Tell him to stop texting you boring nonsense.
Author ellygelly Posted January 17, 2023 Author Posted January 17, 2023 20 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: Maybe he wants round two. Tell him to stop texting you boring nonsense. Ha! Thank you! 1
mark clemson Posted January 17, 2023 Posted January 17, 2023 He may be just sharing jokes since (unless I missed something) he believes you still appreciate them. 1
Author ellygelly Posted January 17, 2023 Author Posted January 17, 2023 22 minutes ago, mark clemson said: He may be just sharing jokes since (unless I missed something) he believes you still appreciate them. Just kinda seems like stringing along, no?
stillafool Posted January 17, 2023 Posted January 17, 2023 5 minutes ago, ellygelly said: Just kinda seems like stringing along, no? No he's not. He already told you what's up. You are stringing yourself along at this point. 4 1
basil67 Posted January 17, 2023 Posted January 17, 2023 (edited) 2 hours ago, ellygelly said: We had sex the last time we saw each other. At this point, it feels like he’s confused and thus wasting my time. How is he wasting your time? It's just a few random internet links....and you've already decided that he's not relationship material. Edited January 17, 2023 by basil67 2 1
ExpatInItaly Posted January 17, 2023 Posted January 17, 2023 Is he having sex with someone else? Or dating someone else? That's my assumption as to why he's "not available" to you, but is lamely keeping in touch in case that doesn't work out and he wants to circle back around to you. 1
Wiseman2 Posted January 17, 2023 Posted January 17, 2023 7 hours ago, ellygelly said: Just kinda seems like stringing along, no? You're completely in control of that. If he doesn't want a relationship but you do, delete and block him. There's no point being one of his collection of hookups. Do whatever is best for you. Try not to view breadcrumbs with any sort of hope that he wants to date rather than just hookup. 1
JTSW Posted January 17, 2023 Posted January 17, 2023 11 hours ago, ellygelly said: he said he “isn’t available for me” Meaning he doesn't want a relationship or be your boyfriend. 11 hours ago, ellygelly said: two days ago he said “we aren’t just friends.” Friends with benefits, that what he see's you guys as. 7 hours ago, ellygelly said: Just kinda seems like stringing along, no? No. You're reading too much into it. He's doing what friends do, sending funny things. 1 1
mark clemson Posted January 17, 2023 Posted January 17, 2023 12 hours ago, ellygelly said: Just kinda seems like stringing along, no? Maybe, but it's hard to say what the intent is. If YOU feel it's stringing you along, then the straightforward thing to do is ignore them (or possibly block or just ask him to stop sending them) and look for someone else. 1
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