LuckyClover Posted January 15, 2023 Posted January 15, 2023 I’m finally to the point where I’m happy again, surprisingly decided to start over and get my life back on track… to not just survive, but also to thrive.(working on it) Two failed marriages due to ex’s cheating and I’m thinking to myself… should I even try to date? Is it even worth it? I have friends, family, kids… do I really need a significant other? Or am I just going to set myself up for another round of failure and depression? Can I sustain happiness alone or will I regret not trying again?
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 15, 2023 Posted January 15, 2023 Why not just take it as it comes rather than deciding right now whether to officially date or not? 3
Wiseman2 Posted January 15, 2023 Posted January 15, 2023 3 hours ago, LuckyClover said: Can I sustain happiness alone or will I regret not trying again? If or when you are ready to date, you'll know. At this time enjoy your freedom for a while and take care of yourself and your physical and mental health . 1
Gaeta Posted January 15, 2023 Posted January 15, 2023 (edited) We cannot answer that question for you. My lady neighbor divorced once in her life and that was 20 years ago. She has been single ever since and she has no desire what so ever to meet a man. Some people are like that. In my case l has 3 long terms relationships. The last 2 ended because of their cheating. I am dating again hoping i'll spend the rest of my life with this one. If it doesn't work i'll survive just like i've survived the other ones. My philosiphy is when l'm on my death bed and looking back l want to see that l lived & l loved all that l could. I don't want to see l was guarded & afraid. Edited January 15, 2023 by Gaeta 3
glows Posted January 15, 2023 Posted January 15, 2023 I reckon many, many, many people have been in your shoes. It’s fine to have these thoughts but take things in stride. If this isn’t an interest to you, don’t bother. After your experiences you may be more invested in other areas or find greater motivation pursuing a great deal many other things. The thing to be careful with is that you do not compare yourself to others or to what others are doing. 1
JTSW Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 Just focus on you for a while. If you happen to meet someone that take it as it comes. Go with the flow. You're doing really great. 1
smackie9 Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 Nothing wrong with just dating/have lady friends to enjoy dinners with/friendships/FWB. No need to knock yourself out to find a love of your life.
stillafool Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 Of course you don't need a SO. There are lots of happy single people whose lives are thriving. If you're happy being single, enjoy it.
Alpacalia Posted January 16, 2023 Posted January 16, 2023 The right time comes when you meet someone who interests you. Until then, party on Garth!
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