just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge Posted January 10, 2023 Posted January 10, 2023 So , I have this crush on this guy hes my age and i have talked to him a few times and I have liked hum for three months and so i decided to make a move on him . So i went up to him and asked him for his number i told him my number and then he gave me his number i said i would like to get to know you outside of school and he said okay yeah , the only problem would be that i have track practice some days and i was like yeah thats fine . and so i texted him later that evening and i didint get an answer its been two days since he gave me his number the thing is even though this guy is really nice i feel like he would be blunt and upfront with me if he did not want me to have his number . hes incredibly polite so think he would have said something along the lines of oh i dont have a number or something like that idk i have been stressing over this all week . So my ultimate question is why would he not text me back ? And why would he give me his number if he did not want me too have it ?
basil67 Posted January 10, 2023 Posted January 10, 2023 Sorry it didn't work out. Yes, it's nice to think he would have said 'no' upfront, but you caught him unawares so probably wasn't thinking that fast. 3
Author just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge Posted January 10, 2023 Author Posted January 10, 2023 Alright , Thank you for the reply .. im going to tell him tomorrow that he should have been upfront with me . and the point was i was not even asking him out in a romantic way . i kinda just wanted to get to know him in like a platonic way so i could decide if i wanted to make a romantic move
basil67 Posted January 10, 2023 Posted January 10, 2023 2 minutes ago, just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge said: Alright , Thank you for the reply .. im going to tell him tomorrow that he should have been upfront with me . and the point was i was not even asking him out in a romantic way . i kinda just wanted to get to know him in like a platonic way so i could decide if i wanted to make a romantic move Don't do that. It's unfair on him and you'll just make it more awkward for the both of you. Just let it pass. 7
Author just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge Posted January 10, 2023 Author Posted January 10, 2023 i know , i was meaning before i got his number and everything im of course still going to be polite but im not going to pursue him or anything
stillafool Posted January 10, 2023 Posted January 10, 2023 15 minutes ago, just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge said: i know , i was meaning before i got his number and everything im of course still going to be polite but im not going to pursue him or anything Good because you've already pursued him. Now just wait and see if he contacts you otherwise just let it go and move on. Don't chase him. I think he would have jumped at the chance by now if he was interested. Do you know if he has a gf there or at another school? 2
Author just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge Posted January 10, 2023 Author Posted January 10, 2023 He does not have a gf i also forgot to mention i have not had my phone since friday and friday is the day i texted him and i texted him at 5 and there was no reply at 9 at night i also forgot that he has track meets all the time so theres a chance he was just busy with that i havent had my phone cause it got taken (grounded :/)
Author just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge Posted January 10, 2023 Author Posted January 10, 2023 I also get my phone back tomorrow i think ... but i have talked to some of his friends and they said that they think he might be grounded as well lol idk ... if something is gonna happen between us it will happen
ExpatInItaly Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 How old are you both, OP? If wants to meet up with you, he will reply. If not, you can assume he didn't know how to tell you that he isn't interested. Some people have a lot of difficulty being upfront, especially when they are on the younger side and not so experienced yet. 1
Wiseman2 Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 9 hours ago, just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge said: And why would he give me his number if he did not want me too have it ? Unfortunately he didn't ask for your number or promise anything. Right away he said he would be busy with sports. Step back relax and get to know other boys at school.
Author just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge Posted January 11, 2023 Author Posted January 11, 2023 5 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: How old are you both, OP? If wants to meet up with you, he will reply. If not, you can assume he didn't know how to tell you that he isn't interested. Some people have a lot of difficulty being upfront, especially when they are on the younger side and not so experienced yet. Im 15 , and hes 16 . The only thing that confuses me is all of his friends are like '' he likes you '' and he told me that he does and etc ... But i dont believe that until he says it himself
Author just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge Posted January 11, 2023 Author Posted January 11, 2023 4 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Unfortunately he didn't ask for your number or promise anything. Right away he said he would be busy with sports. Step back relax and get to know other boys at school. All right , will do im just gonna go with the flow and if we become a couple or smth than thats great if we dont then its not meant to be .
JTSW Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 13 hours ago, just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge said: i have not had my phone since friday and friday is the day i texted him So let me get this straight, you had your phone confiscated by your parents? If so, do you think they could've possibly deleted any messages from him? If this isn't the case then I just don't think he's interested.
Author just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge Posted January 11, 2023 Author Posted January 11, 2023 Yeah , i mean possibly i got my phone back today and i saw his number was blocked ( i did not block him ) ... So they probably did block him cause they dont trust me and they think i quote on quote '' Am going to get pregnant by 16'' which is not true at all soo idk ?
stillafool Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 Well it's okay your parents know best and want the best for you. You've got forever to get involved with boys. It's best to concentrate on your studies for now. 1
smackie9 Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 There is a work around...put him under a girl's name in your phone. Also stay out of trouble. Doing that will make your parents back off and let their guard down a bit.
Author just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge Posted January 11, 2023 Author Posted January 11, 2023 oh , thank you i usually do stay out of trouble so i dont know why they dont trust me
poppyfields Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 (edited) 20 minutes ago, just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge said: oh , thank you i usually do stay out of trouble so i dont know why they dont trust me I don't think it's because they don't trust you. It's more likely because you're only 15 years old, much too young and impressionable for any of this. They're actually being good responsible parents. What are you in 9th grade? You have you're entire life ahead of you, focus on studies, talk to boys, plenty of time for dating and relationships in a few years. Edited January 11, 2023 by poppyfields 2
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 So it's only been two days? (Did I read that correctly?) I would just give it a few days before worrying.
glows Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 He doesn’t seem as keen about this. Your age might turn him off if he’s a year older. Not all but some don’t like that regardless of your gender. It sounds more like a lot of hot air coming from his friends and him about “liking you”. They could have been teasing you as well and knew you’d react. If he doesn’t approach you or contact you, he’s a waste of time. Keep things neutral at school and focus on studies. Don’t get your things taken away or deceive your parents.
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 8 hours ago, just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge said: Yeah , i mean possibly i got my phone back today and i saw his number was blocked ( i did not block him ) ... So they probably did block him cause they dont trust me and they think i quote on quote '' Am going to get pregnant by 16'' which is not true at all soo idk ? Okay...well, you need to talk to your parents about this. Why don't they trust you? Are you allowed to date at all? If you are, what are the rules? (Nothing sarcastic. Ask these questions calmly.) You do live in their household and are a minor so within reason (obviously abuse or neglect don't count in this), what they say goes. You do need to follow their rules until you're a legal adult. It seems hard now but you have a little bit longer before you call all your own shots.
JTSW Posted January 12, 2023 Posted January 12, 2023 19 hours ago, just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge said: Yeah , i mean possibly i got my phone back today and i saw his number was blocked ( i did not block him ) ... So they probably did block him cause they dont trust me and they think i quote on quote '' Am going to get pregnant by 16'' which is not true at all soo idk ? Obviously he must have texted you and they saw it so they deleted it and blocked him. You are only 15, so it's natural they want to protect you. Saying that, my daughter is 16 and I would never delete msgs and block people in her phone. I ensure she is not talking to any strangers and that's good enough for me.
Author just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge Posted January 12, 2023 Author Posted January 12, 2023 17 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said: Okay...well, you need to talk to your parents about this. Why don't they trust you? Are you allowed to date at all? If you are, what are the rules? (Nothing sarcastic. Ask these questions calmly.) You do live in their household and are a minor so within reason (obviously abuse or neglect don't count in this), what they say goes. You do need to follow their rules until you're a legal adult. It seems hard now but you have a little bit longer before you call all your own shots. Alright , i will im allowed to date as long as my parents meet him and that type of thing and as long as they supervise me then im allowed too 1
stillafool Posted January 12, 2023 Posted January 12, 2023 Just now, just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge said: Alright , i will im allowed to date as long as my parents meet him and that type of thing and as long as they supervise me then im allowed too Well introduce him to your parents and perhaps they will give you permission to date him. 1
Author just_a_sprinkle_of_sayge Posted January 12, 2023 Author Posted January 12, 2023 UPDATE We talked yesterday cause we had a play performance and he asked me if it was okay with my parents if me and him could go on a run together at our local park i asked my mom and she agreed !! so shes going to sit in the car at the park but shes going to let me and him take a run together and then we are having a picnic afterwards so .. i think its going well.. My mom is going to meet him and see if she would be okay with us being in a relationship i realized if i talk to her calmly and rationally it lets her think about things more than for me and her too fight but im so exicted !! but i passed my finals ! so school has been going well 1
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