glows Posted January 6, 2023 Posted January 6, 2023 On 1/4/2023 at 12:58 PM, singletrack said: I have not but I most certainly plan to. Like I’ve mentioned , my personal boundary is I will not be with someone una committed relationship where they would entertain the idea of a trip to a party island with another man of all things. In my view, it’s outright disrespectful to the relationship and to me and puts undue stress on it. As we see here others view it differently and that’s OK! There are a lot of things that aren’t working including the on/off nature of the relationship. The tropical island trip with unknown male friend (and I’m calling it that because for some reason after all the time you’ve dated and known one another you still can’t trust what she says when she tells you it’s a gay male friend). Your mind is constantly on high alert and suspicious of her cheating on you with an ex boyfriend. It’s the case now where even solo trips with no friends is considered disrespectful or frowned upon for you. If we remove the tropical island trip these feelings likely wouldn’t go away. They would sit there latent and ready to resurface at the slightest disagreement or difference in opinion. Anytime she shows you she’d like to go out or have fun with friends you’ll be thinking she’s going behind your back again. You do not trust her. Nothing is going to change that as the relationship is too damaged and neither of you are on the same page. She seems disrespectful to you and the same could be said about you when you call her all these things and distrust what she’s telling you. It absolutely is a catch 22. No one is budging and too many accusations and plentiful distrust. 4
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