Lishy Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 What do you think makes a partner good in bed? I wouldnt say it was just technique .... I would say it was the connection you have together and both being 'un-selfish' and realising what the other wants (Through intuition and communication) Does size REALLY matter? I think it does a bit!! What does everyone else think?
glittergurl Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 Hmmmm good post! I have no idea; my husband's my first & only, so I can't really compare. About the size: ehh I don't know, I'm happy with hubby's size Anyway, I'm curious to read other people's reactions!
glittergurl Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 Cant wait to see the reaction about the penis size lol!!!!
bunnzy Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 I havent slept with my fiance yet, we are waiting for marraige, but we have fooled around a bit and there is definate great communication and chemistry. I think it more important that you ahve a friendly, open and intimate relationship BEFORE sex comes into it. Size doesnt matter, as long as the shoe fits, but hey, i do like more to play with! But i also dont appreciate feeling split in half, so yeah. Its more important how confident the guy is in his size, and if he knows he's good there he'll be more likely to do the right things for you. He wont be worrying about how big/small he is.
basscatcher Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 respect for yourself then respect for your partner. communication between the two of you. sensitivity to the other persons emotions. gentle exploration of one another to find each others sensual spots. affection towards your partner-its not a take take take take. knowing yourself then sharing that info with your partner. being in love with the person you are with is always a big big big plus for gratification. (I've posted about this question before.) size doesnt matter much to me; its how its used. exploration will assist with this. different positions help. I personally don't like a man who is too big, it almost scares me because it hurts!!. If its too small and can't penatrate then I think we might have a little problem.
Topper Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 for me the best lovers have been those, that there has just been an azamzing connection. You seem to be able to read each others minds and know what they want and need. Things just flow together naturally. There isn't any real thought of some masterful technique or position. You just seem to find yourself in the moment letting go and very in tune with your lovers body. Part of tantric sex is being able to tune into your lover and connect.
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 part of my reasons of breaking up may have been because I am too sexual... but she seemed OK with it and wouldn'nt most?
Tangerina Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 Hmm.... mutual interests and kinks, ENTHUSIASM, respect, COMMUNICATION!!..... pretty much communication and willingness to try new things and go out on a limb to please your partner (within your own comfort zone and values)... gosh, I think a lot of is is just chemistry and mindset....
bab Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 Oh yeah, and size does matter, but not as much as how skilled he is with the tongue!! :p :p :p
Art_Critic Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 patented hip tricks You don't have one of those clicking hips do you ?? I've only run into one girl that could click her hips.. hummmm
westernxer Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 A strong motor... to keep her away from the battery-operated devices.
slubberdegullion Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 Turn off the phone, lock the door;Impeccable hygiene;Drizzled liquid chocolate (use your imagination);Strawberries and bananas (ditto);Candlelight;Jazz;A mixture of light and deep kisses;Lots and lots of pillows;Ice;Lots and lots of time and patience;Red wine (also good for drizzling, but may stain, so put down a towel or blanket first);Occasional use of small mechanical buzzing devices (she's named them Mini-Me and Junior!);Chucking the inhibitions out the window;Making sure she peaks a minimum of twice before penetration;Intertwining fingers;Warm, scented oils;Whispering her name;2 glasses of cold water beside the bed;Gentle nibbles;Long, luxuriant shower together afterward; and, of course,Practice, practice, practice.
glittergurl Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 lol West, u look like my husband, you freak me out every time i see your avatar
RecordProducer Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 The most important thing is that you're sexually compatible. What's important to me: 1. Right size, full erection 2. Lasts long enough, 30+ min 3. Loves long foreplay 4. Is passionate about me and gets turned-on easily 5. Open-minded, but not kinky 6. I love him and know that he loves me My BF fulfills all of the above. Sex is extremely important to me, not in the sense that I want it all the time, but bad sex frustrates me.
westernxer Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 lol West, u look like my husband, you freak me out every time i see your avatar Only one way to find out... kidding (*cough* sort of).
JS17 Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 You don't have one of those clicking hips do you ?? I've only run into one girl that could click her hips.. hummmm I plead the 5th I'm also double jointed. A strong motor... to keep her away from the battery-operated devices. You're a good man westernxer.
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