basil67 Posted December 19, 2022 Posted December 19, 2022 Oh, I missed this thread. Based on the first conversation, I would not have given him a date at all, so I was surprised when you said it worked out OK. Then he's back to his normal self. Get rid of him....and it's OK to tell your friend that he was a bore who just wanted to listen to himself drone on about how great he is. 1
Gaeta Posted December 19, 2022 Posted December 19, 2022 Don't drop a good man (#2) just cause you're not sure about his kissing. A man will be more than happy to adjust his kissing to what you like. Go on a few dates with him then make a decision. 2
Author Classicfiction Posted December 20, 2022 Author Posted December 20, 2022 12 hours ago, glows said: There were a number of unflattering and problematic observations about guy 1. You’ve described conversing with him on the phone as painful, likes to hear himself talk, sounded like a dick (your words here), in sales mode, continuous bragging, having a mask, having narcissistic qualities. We don’t know this person and from one date unfortunately neither do you. Turn this around for a second - would you go on a date with someone who thought any or all the above about you? Yeah I hear you. It's like there is someone else underneath that exterior though. I suppose I'm kind of intrigued by that and there was obvious physical chemistry. I think you're right though.. if all of this is bothering me from the start, it will most likely not get any better. I'll update after the second date.
Author Classicfiction Posted December 20, 2022 Author Posted December 20, 2022 13 hours ago, basil67 said: Oh, I missed this thread. Based on the first conversation, I would not have given him a date at all, so I was surprised when you said it worked out OK. Then he's back to his normal self. Get rid of him....and it's OK to tell your friend that he was a bore who just wanted to listen to himself drone on about how great he is. Most likely I won't be dating this man longterm. It's just frustrating because I find myself attracted to the alpha qualities but annoyed by them at the same time. If he was just a little bit less of a douche, it could be magical. With the second guy, I could see comfort and stability. We vibe and the conversations are easy. I'm not craving to jump his bones though.
Alpacalia Posted December 20, 2022 Posted December 20, 2022 4 hours ago, Classicfiction said: With the second guy, I could see comfort and stability. Why not date someone that you're excited about? Settling down and being “comfortable” sounds like hospice - besides, nothing ever grows when we are in our comfort zone. What about common goals? Intellect? Things in common? Be careful not to date someone just because it is convenient.
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