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After reading all your posts, it sounds like you’re facing the typical cheating spouse syndrome:

Not being strong enough to face the unknown consequences of doing the right thing by ending the marriage. 
 

my ex did the same. She only stayed cuz she didn’t want me to be hurt, which ironically prolonged the hurt. 
 

1) your wife isn’t too old. No such thing. Codependant maybe. Zero confidence maybe. But not too old. 
 

2) you’re not doing this to not hurt her. You’re doing this to not feel bad to watch someone you love be hurt by your actions. 
 

3) sounds like you’re too scared to walk out. U absolutely sound like ur done with this woman. People grow and change. In this case, I two didn’t grow and change together. 
 

Therapy will help u guys for sure. I don’t think it’ll be to reconcile, but it’ll be a healthy ending to this affair. 
 

so good job, and keep going! Please make sure she goes to her own therapy too. 
 

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