Scotty Riggs Posted December 14, 2022 Posted December 14, 2022 (edited) This might sound odd, but it relates to my post-breakup healing. Months back, I started working on some art for a band. I thought it would be fun to use my then-girlfriend and myself as references for the characters in the artwork. I posted my progress a few months ago, but it isn't finished yet. I'm debating if I should remove her/modify her face from the art before completion. This conundrum has me debating if I should even post the final art online. My cynical side worries that it would stroke her ego to see herself still intact, and reinforce my role of always trying to win her love during our relationship (she was in a confused rebound phase and emotionally unavailable with me). On the other hand, it might look childish/bitter to remove or alter her. A middle ground would be coloring us in simple "night" shades of blue with no distinctive hair or skin color. Edited December 14, 2022 by Scotty Riggs
ExpatInItaly Posted December 14, 2022 Posted December 14, 2022 4 hours ago, Scotty Riggs said: I'm debating if I should remove her/modify her face from the art before completion Yes, absolutely. Your other thread revealed that you are having trouble getting over her. Consider removing her as a step to really letting her go.
glows Posted December 14, 2022 Posted December 14, 2022 Yes, get rid of her face, identifying feature such as hair and so on. It’s not childish or bitter to evict someone from your mind and space. It’s called boundaries. Best to create better boundaries going forward and remove anything having to do with her.
Wiseman2 Posted December 14, 2022 Posted December 14, 2022 16 hours ago, Scotty Riggs said: My cynical side worries that it would stroke her ego to see herself still intact, and reinforce my role of always trying to win her love during our relationship Yes, find a way to obliterate her identity somehow, not because you're broken up or may inadvertently "stroke her ego", but for legal purposes. You surely don't want to pay her royalties on her image or get in trouble regarding other legalities. Talk to an attorney, but it's just as easy to modify your work to not use her image.
Author Scotty Riggs Posted December 14, 2022 Author Posted December 14, 2022 10 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Yes, find a way to obliterate her identity somehow, not because you're broken up or may inadvertently "stroke her ego", but for legal purposes. You surely don't want to pay her royalties on her image or get in trouble regarding other legalities. Talk to an attorney, but it's just as easy to modify your work to not use her image. Thank you, but respectfully, I can't imagine she would do that, for a number of reasons: She agreed to be the reference when we shot the photos. Yes, it looks like her, but it's just simplified comic book-style art. Especially if I don't use her signature hair color, it would be a hard case for her to make. She doesn't have money or resources to bother with legal action. Most importantly, she has no apparent animosity towards me and, based on her behavior, likely still has a measure of affection. She still snoops on my social media, and if anything, might pity me as the one she dumped. I'm pretty confident sure she would be amused to see the final art. I'm likely going to use a color tint, which sidesteps "real" hair and skin color, and I might make small tweaks to her hair or face for good measure.
Wiseman2 Posted December 14, 2022 Posted December 14, 2022 18 minutes ago, Scotty Riggs said: She agreed to be the reference when we shot the photos. Unless it's in writing, that doesn't mean much after a breakup. You can do whatever you wish with your art, but it's unwise to use any type of clearly identifiable image of someone you have no written agreement with.
flitzanu Posted December 14, 2022 Posted December 14, 2022 46 minutes ago, Scotty Riggs said: Thank you, but respectfully, I can't imagine she would do that, for a number of reasons: She agreed to be the reference when we shot the photos. Yes, it looks like her, but it's just simplified comic book-style art. Especially if I don't use her signature hair color, it would be a hard case for her to make. She doesn't have money or resources to bother with legal action. Most importantly, she has no apparent animosity towards me and, based on her behavior, likely still has a measure of affection. She still snoops on my social media, and if anything, might pity me as the one she dumped. I'm pretty confident sure she would be amused to see the final art. I'm likely going to use a color tint, which sidesteps "real" hair and skin color, and I might make small tweaks to her hair or face for good measure. this is absolutely ignoring the other bigger issues that were prevented. making a list about why you think it is "legal" is completely avoiding the notion of being "right" or healthy. remove her. you know it is her, and you will always know it is her, and anytime you see it you're going to have to be emotionally reminded that it is her. make it literally anyone else or any other vague female face/form. if no one contractually paid for this exact design, then change it or start from scratch.
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