starr3546 Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 Guys lets say your with a girl for three months seriously, but have been talking since may.......scenario.....just this past week your extremely sweet and loving toward her; you have a great sweetest day, you stay with her the night b4 she had sergery on her mouth, then you text and call her to check on her a million times.....after sergery gf goes back to school until thursday.....you see her on friday and everything is good, you work that night and then sat go out with your buddies, the next day you wake up at 7 to play football and text your gf g'morning. Then later that day go see a movie with your girl, go home make out, have amazing passonate love making sex, are really sweet after, the next morning really tired not to loveable, have sex again with gf, then the gf says i have to leave and the bf goes noooo....so gf stays little bit longer then leaves to go back to school. Gf is now away at school, she doesn't talk to bf on mon, cause she just saw him, but text's him g'nnight, then the next day calls him and he doesn't answer but calls her back. the gf tells the bf that she is sick when he calls and he only stays on phone for short time when friend calls. Bf tell gf i'll call you back but doesn't however texts the gf that he is going to work out with friend and that he will "ttyl", however bf never called gf back. Now my question is.....is it easy for guys to fall out of a relationship with a girl. Can you guys suddenly after being with a girl who you've said is amazing, who all your buddies like, your mom adores and someone you have recently shown so much affection towards just a few days ago just suddenly in a couple days time not want to be with her anymore. Or is this GF just being paronoid about BF. On sunday i noticed he wasnt' as affectionate as he usually but it could have just been my imagination....i suddenly had to go off my birth control so my hormones are a lil screwy...could this just be me thinking that somehting is wrong or do i have something to worry about here.....guys would love the input...
Blackfrost Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 relax, give it a few more days. Not everyone gushes affection continuously day after day after day. Men have their affectionate spurts just like women - it's just part of being emotional creatures.
Author starr3546 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Posted October 27, 2005 ok let me up date this, now i called him again today and left him a message to please call me back. He did call me back and left a message saying that he was up at his dad's bar and would call me on his way home. he never called...why did he even call me back and leave that message if he doesn't want to talk to me....y is he stringing me along!!! please help with some advice on what to do!!!
allaboutchoices Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 You haven't had a chance to miss each other = you haven't been able to breath. Give it few days, you both need some space. Don't call him, let him call you.
Author starr3546 Posted October 28, 2005 Author Posted October 28, 2005 Well i was right there was something wrrong. We broke up.....So here is the deal he called me on friday around 4 to talk about things....i believe that the reason he gave me for breaking up is truthfull, but i still think it is complete ****...he has brought this up b4 in the beginning when we first discussed our relationship and where it was going. He was worried b/c of a past relationship that went wrong b/c he got busy with law school and the girl broke up with him b/c she wasn't getting the attention she needed from him b/c of school....it was a long distance relationship...since the end of this past relationship he has moved home and is now going to law school here...he is in law school and pulls a 3.5 GPA so he is constantly studying...however this girl he was dating b4 me was selfish and didn;t realize what she had and broke up with him....and hurt him really bad...so now he thinks that the same thing is going to happen with me...he thinks that he is going to start law school back up and that he is going to get busy with his clerkship, bartending on thursday, friday and he hopes he can pick up a saturday shift, and that with all this going on he obviously isn't going to see me much....he says he isn't going to have time with me and if he does it is one day a week and he thinks that i am going to get bored because i am not going to be getting the attention i need from him. It is also important that he spends time with his friends....which he has made clearly come b4 me....He thinks that with him working and so busy with school that i am going to feel neglected because he has to divide his time with me and his friends....He said that i am going to be out on the weekends and am going to meet someone else while out and leave him, and then he is going to be hurt....he pretty much told me that it needs to end because he KNOWS i am going to leave him...i am a very independent person, and i know what i have in him. He is everything i want. I am completely in love with him however he doesnt know that, but i wouldnt leave him for anything. I would take a crumb of him if that's all i could get. He told me that i am perfect and that i treat him perfect. He wanted to make it clear to me that nothing i did was wrong; that it was just that he knows he is going to have to make sacrifices for school, and that i was one of them. He said that he has so much fun with me and that he has never had a girl treat him so good....he said that he was hurt and mad and sad about this. So i told him that i wasn't going to sit there and try to change his mind and he told me that it can't be changed...that this was a difficult decision....he isn't done for 2 years with school, but i am willing to take what i can get and wait it out...he told me that he has heard it b4 and that i will get bored and leave him....i mean i just don't get it if i am that perfect why is he just throwing it away...our relationship is great always good times....so much in common always laughing...i mean there isn't one aspect about us together that could be wrong...besides the fact that he is going to busy with school and working, i mean i am busy to with school and work but he just thinks i am going to leave....I want him back but i know i need to give him space, to maybe do his thing right now and sort things out, and maybe he will miss me and come back....but anyway i guess my question here is what do i, i mean should i call him in a couple weeks to say hi, or what or do u guys think that it is just a blow off excuse to break up with me....can someone please give me some advice...i am so confused, haven't slept yet today so sorry if this is hard to follow.....
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