Spicydicey449 Posted November 30, 2022 Posted November 30, 2022 I'm 27, I've been seeing this guy (my same age) for about a month now. We met online and talked a couple weeks before we met up. So far, everything has been pretty good. Our dates are great and we get along well. Earlier on we discussed what we were looking for and are on the same page about wanting a partnership. But my anxiety here comes in, because while our time TOGETHER is great, when we don't see each other, the communication is iffy. We DO have some sort of contact daily. But nothing to the extent that it is reassuring for me. He does have an important job and is busy, so I'm not expecting to hear from him while he's at work or anything. But when you typically only get to see each other once a week, it's not crazy to want better conversation is it? Also, when would be a good time to have a check in talk about what we're doing here? I'm going to see him this weekend and was thinking, depending how it goes, to check in with that. Or is it too early for me to be pushy?
basil67 Posted November 30, 2022 Posted November 30, 2022 No, it's not crazy to want better conversation....but in my opinion the best conversation is had face to face. After one month and having had all the discussions about compatibility, I'd be expecting a mid week date and a Saturday night sleepover...and spending Sunday morning together. Why are you seeing each other just once a week? If you answer that it's because he's busy, then perhaps he's too busy to have a relationship.
Wiseman2 Posted November 30, 2022 Posted November 30, 2022 3 hours ago, Spicydicey449 said: , when would be a good time to have a check in talk about what we're doing here? Have the exclusive talk before you get physical. That means only having sex with each other and not pursuing others while having sex. 60 days dating is very early. Too early for text-tethering or being joined at the hip and seeing each other too much. Take your time and try not to oversaturate things with too much texting or too much togetherness too soon.
glows Posted November 30, 2022 Posted November 30, 2022 Do you mind me asking what you’re anxious about? You mentioned you get along well. Despite being in an exclusive relationship you may still think his lifestyle isn’t compatible with yours or his communication style. It’s good idea figuring out if you’re dating exclusively before being sexually intimate for both personal and health reasons. Do you feel his low level of communication would cause you to lose interest over time?
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