should I end this relationship? and did she cheat based on these signs ?

[hawkeye12]

hello guys I'm new to this forum 

i met this girl in family gathering and from few first date I loved her and I did confess that to her during all the 8 months relationship everything was great we were very happy and content but .. since October she's acting very weird she was very scare if I make kiss mark on her , her mind when I talk her was somewhere else most the time I felt she's distant she's different and the gut feeling tell she did something anyway in October she disappeared for about 2-3 hours at midnight I called her during that time and I asked what happened her answer is I fall a sleep , this never happened before and her phone always on ringtone I remember I called her many times but no answer . I lost my mind and I pulled her phone the next day I told her show me everything I saw male numbers in her whatsapp but no conversations I asked what's this how you know them but her answers not logical at all . now I reach point I don't want to touch her kiss her hug her I don't want honestly I feel I want to vomit if I get closer to her . I have been betrayed before from family members and ex girlfriend they tried to destroy my life . I explained this to my current girlfriend I told her I ask you nothing but loyalty and I all yours but since October I'm stressed with her behavior and the way she act it's been 3 weeks not even a kiss 

what's your opinion on this ? and specially the kiss mark part ? 

[Wiseman2]

8 minutes ago, hawkeye12 said:

 I'm stressed with her behavior and the way she act it's been 3 weeks not even a kiss.

She doesn't seem that interested. Just move forward to women who want what you want. Save yourself the headaches and heartaches. Just tell her you're not a match, then delete and block her.

[glows]

It’s better if you accept this isn’t going anywhere. You can’t stand being close to her and are repulsed. Be careful you don’t go down the route becoming obsessed tracking her every move. 

I wouldn’t read into the kiss mark. Im assuming you mean a hickey. A lot of people don’t like those and it’s rude to be leaving marks if the other person doesn’t like it. She may have felt self conscious about it later in the relationship and dislikes that you leave them.

If you have to ask to see someone’s phone and contacts for proof of their loyalty there’s far too much distrust. It’s only 8 months. Don’t let a couple of sour relationships completely ruin your life. Move on and be more careful in picking new partners.

[LynneVicious]

Signs are that she’s cheating. Sorry. 

[Ami1uwant]

What do you want to hear?   She’s pulling away from you.  Move on.

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[ExpatInItaly]

Whether or not she is cheating, it is very clear she is not into you anymore. 

Also, what do you mean by a "kiss mark"? What sort of kisses are you peforming that they leave marks? 

[Gaeta]

Hard to tell if she did something wrong or it's just you being paranoid because of past betrayals. 

Nothing wrong with not picking up her phone for a couple of hours. Why were you calling her in the middle of the night? Sounds you were not trusting her or you have trust issues. As for the kiss mark, the hickey, no thank  you, no matter how much I love a man I will not accept a hickey. Has nothing to do with how I feel about him. It's also a bit childing to want to leave a kiss mark on his girlfriend, we did that in high school. 

[basil67]

It's perfectly normal to sleep through the phone calling at or around midnight, especially if it's just on 'vibrate'.   It's also perfectly normal for a person to not want visible marks from kissing.   

Meanwhile your behaviour of repeatedly calling in the middle of the night, demanding to see her phone, wanting to leave visible kiss marks on her body and wanting to vomit if you get close is not normal.  It's no surprise that she hasn't kissed you in three weeks.  That said, are you sure she still sees you as a boyfriend?

[hawkeye12]

2 minutes ago, basil67 said:

It's perfectly normal to sleep through the phone calling at or around midnight, especially if it's just on 'vibrate'.   It's also perfectly normal for a person to not want visible marks from kissing.   

Meanwhile your behaviour of repeatedly calling in the middle of the night, demanding to see her phone, wanting to leave visible kiss marks on her body and wanting to vomit if you get close is not normal.  It's no surprise that she hasn't kissed you in three weeks.  That said, are you sure she still sees you as a boyfriend?

I have no idea if she still sees me as boyfriend but she's trying to make things work again but gut feeling tell me run . 

she lied to me she said her phone was on high ringtone ! I called her but she didn't answer 

before we both leave kiss marks on each other and there was no problems suddenly she became very concerned and doesn't want it anymore ! 

in today's world is difficult to keep the relationship together many things distract ppl and push them to cheat and tell the grass greener on the other side all the social media apps are like dating apps nowadays. 

 

thanks for opinion 

[basil67]

Given your views of her, you really have no option but to end it.  

I've sometimes had to wake my husband when his phone rings at night for work, so sleeping through ring tones is not impossible.  That said, it's still unacceptable to be repeatedly calling someone at that time of night.

My guess is that she grew out of the kiss marks.  Or perhaps someone told her that they were gross and made her realise how awful they look.  Watch people around you...how many other people who are above the age of 17 have visible marks?

There is nothing in the modern world to change a person's morals and ethics.  Cheating has always been around.  And cheating is a choice - a person cannot be 'pushed' to do it without their consent.    And frankly I don't buy the whole 'grass is greener' thing.  After all, if you choose to leave this woman, it's not because the grass is greener, but because (rightly or wrongly) you don't trust her and want better for yourself.  

[hawkeye12]

2 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Given your views of her, you really have no option but to end it.  

I've sometimes had to wake my husband when his phone rings at night for work, so sleeping through ring tones is not impossible.  That said, it's still unacceptable to be repeatedly calling someone at that time of night.

My guess is that she grew out of the kiss marks.  Or perhaps someone told her that they were gross and made her realise how awful they look.  Watch people around you...how many other people who are above the age of 17 have visible marks?

There is nothing in the modern world to change a person's morals and ethics.  Cheating has always been around.  And cheating is a choice - a person cannot be 'pushed' to do it without their consent.    And frankly I don't buy the whole 'grass is greener' thing.  After all, if you choose to leave this woman, it's not because the grass is greener, but because (rightly or wrongly) you don't trust her and want better for yourself.  

I want to leave but the problem is her mother dying and she was downgraded since she was teenage by her mother and her drunk ex 

she always saw quality in me and saw me me different as I come from religious family I was good to her and she always mentioned how much she appreciate me . I feel she will lose her way I know she's an adult but her mother taking all the control of her life and one night she fired her and her mom brought her boyfriend and both got drunk.  I admit I don't love her that much and I'm not attracted to her but I feel she needs me in some way . I'm not saying I'm savior or I save her but there were nights she was crying alone and she call me to come and be with her . 

 

thanks for opinion 

[FelipeBleichvel]

Bro, leave this. It's toxic beyond reason.

Remember, the things, actions, or people that you bring to your life that do not improve your freedom, your path, winder it. And hurt it.

[basil67]

5 hours ago, hawkeye12 said:

I want to leave but the problem is her mother dying and she was downgraded since she was teenage by her mother and her drunk ex thanks for opinion 

If you're only with her out of a sense of duty and want to vomit when she's near you, why are you possessive with repetitive calling and going through her phone?  Surely you'd be pleased if she found someone else and moved on

[hawkeye12]

27 minutes ago, basil67 said:

If you're only with her out of a sense of duty and want to vomit when she's near you, why are you possessive with repetitive calling and going through her phone?  Surely you'd be pleased if she found someone else and moved on

I loved her but her actions did make me feel this way no one is perfect she have personal issue too . I wish her all best . ended .