Would calling someone who didn't reply to a message on a dating app be appropriate?

[max3732]

22 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Exactly right on both points. One is the through the apps calling feature is precisely for the reason you mentioned. And yes you don't know who you are really dealing with and someone could report you for what they  think is overbearing.

Guess you're right.

20 hours ago, introverted1 said:

You're being way too literal about this.

In many cases, if a woman has decided she is not interested, she will perceive any continued contact as harassment.  Is that just or rational?  No.  Does it happen?  Yes.  All she has to do in the report is click the button that says "harassment" or "abusive behavior" or whatever she wants to click. She doesn't have to hire a PI to prove her case.

Is it really worth it? If she was interested, she'd be looking for your message(s), not ignoring it.  Silence IS an answer.

A few years ago I put a comment on something online and it was removed "for violating the terms of service". I think my comment was about why I liked one recipe more than another or something like that. When I contacted support asking for the specific violation they just said that someone had reported it and no one looked at it. So maybe you're right the dating apps do that too.

20 hours ago, basil67 said:

The dating apps don't ask for evidence.  Scroll up for me telling you that my daughter got banned for no reason she's aware of.  She and her friends found it highly amusing because she's the last person who'd stalk or harass, yet, her account is gone.

That's terrible! They should have a person review it before banning your account

[basil67]

10 hours ago, max3732 said:

That's terrible! They should have a person review it before banning your account

Think it through: you don't get high level customer service without paying wages for all the people who will process every complaint and look for supporting evidence.  You won't get this level of service on a free or relatively low cost app

Edited October 19, 2022 by basil67

[Wiseman2]

The best thing you can do is date more locally. While you may be looking for a specific sort of unicorn who shares some views, many women may not view things this way.

This may explain why some of them eventually fade out.

The good news is you are getting dates and are experiencing the usual one and done type of thing and other pitfalls of online dating.

Have you considered more in person opportunities to meet women? 

[max3732]

On 10/19/2022 at 6:26 AM, Wiseman2 said:

The best thing you can do is date more locally. While you may be looking for a specific sort of unicorn who shares some views, many women may not view things this way.

This may explain why some of them eventually fade out.

The good news is you are getting dates and are experiencing the usual one and done type of thing and other pitfalls of online dating.

Have you considered more in person opportunities to meet women? 

I'm open to meeting women in person. I just don't know how