sushiandtacos Posted October 13, 2022 Posted October 13, 2022 Hey guys, A guy set up a date with a place and time for tonight. He asked me if the time was okay yesterday morning and I texted back saying it was! But he hasn't confirmed all day today and it's in two hours? Should I still go or no because he hasn't followed up on it today?
Author sushiandtacos Posted October 13, 2022 Author Posted October 13, 2022 Just now, NuevoYorko said: I would go. Should I text him to confirm if it's still happening? I sent the last text tho saying the time works great
basil67 Posted October 13, 2022 Posted October 13, 2022 (edited) Is this the new boyfriend you wrote about a couple of days ago? You've been dating 4-6 weeks, so what makes you think he may flake? Edited October 13, 2022 by basil67
poppyfields Posted October 13, 2022 Posted October 13, 2022 (edited) 23 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: Should I text him to confirm if it's still happening? I sent the last text tho saying the time works great I wouldn't. Even though he didn't respond to your text about the time, your agreeing to the time, in his mind, was confirmation. If you text him now asking if it's still happening, he will wonder why you need reassurance since it (date/place/time) was pretty much confirmed yesterday. I know how you feel, but try to relax. Go, enjoy, have fun! Edited October 13, 2022 by poppyfields
Author sushiandtacos Posted October 13, 2022 Author Posted October 13, 2022 6 minutes ago, basil67 said: Is this the new boyfriend you wrote about a couple of days ago? You've been dating 4-6 weeks, so what makes you think he may flake? lol I wish, what new boyfriend? I've been going on different dates with guys!
Author sushiandtacos Posted October 13, 2022 Author Posted October 13, 2022 2 minutes ago, poppyfields said: I wouldn't. Even though he didn't respond to your text about the time, your agreeing to the time, in his mind, was confirmation. If you text him now asking if it's still happening, he will wonder why you need reassurance since it (date/place/time) was pretty much confirmed yesterday. I know how you feel, but try to relax. Go, enjoy, have fun! I sent a text asking if we're still good for tonight and no response yet... This is not normal because I'm used to guys confirming at least a few hours before the set date and time
Author sushiandtacos Posted October 13, 2022 Author Posted October 13, 2022 I just don't want to spend all this time and energy getting ready for it to not happen. It's in less than an hour now
poppyfields Posted October 13, 2022 Posted October 13, 2022 1 minute ago, sushiandtacos said: I sent a text asking if we're still good for tonight and no response yet... This is not normal because I'm used to guys confirming at least a few hours before the set date and time Me too sushi, but NOT when we had already confirmed the day before. In fact, often times a man would text the day before to confirm! But here, it was arranged and confirmed the day before. I dunno, if me I would just go. I think it would be rude not to. If he flakes, he flakes, at least you did your part. Let us know!
Author sushiandtacos Posted October 13, 2022 Author Posted October 13, 2022 2 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Me too sushi, but NOT when we had already confirmed the day before. In fact, often times a man would text the day before to confirm! But here, it was arranged and confirmed the day before. I dunno, if me I would just go. I think it would be rude not to. If he flakes, he flakes, at least you did your part. Let us know! I sent a text about 20 minutes ago. I slowly start to get ready but if I don't hear from him, I'm think it's not happening and probably won't go
poppyfields Posted October 13, 2022 Posted October 13, 2022 (edited) 8 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: I just don't want to spend all this time and energy getting ready for it to not happen. It's in less than an hour now Fair enough. For me, it was never a big deal. I throw on a cute dress or jeans and pretty blouse, some blush and lip gloss and I'm out the door. But I live in SoCal, we're all pretty casual here, that's why I would go, just to see. But you're not me, you do you. What if he texts you 15 minutes prior and tells you he's on his way? Will that be enough time to get ready? Edited October 13, 2022 by poppyfields
Author sushiandtacos Posted October 13, 2022 Author Posted October 13, 2022 1 minute ago, poppyfields said: Fair enough. For me, it was never a big deal. I throw on a cute dress or jeans and pretty blouse, some blush and lip gloss and I'm out the door. I have always treated first meets very casually, that's why I would go, just to see. But you're not me, you do you. What if he texts you 15 minutes prior and tells you he's on his way? Will that be enough time to get ready? Yes I can get ready in that time, just never had to deal with this situation before so just confused as to what my plan of action would be Just weird he didn't follow up yesterday or all day today, which makes my intuitions think it's not happening, giving bad vibes already so far honestly
basil67 Posted October 13, 2022 Posted October 13, 2022 14 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: lol I wish, what new boyfriend? I've been going on different dates with guys! Sorry, my mistake. You responded to a poster with thanks on a similar issue I thought you were the OP on that thread 1
poppyfields Posted October 13, 2022 Posted October 13, 2022 1 minute ago, sushiandtacos said: Yes I can get ready in that time, just never had to deal with this situation before so just confused as to what my plan of action would be Just weird he didn't follow up yesterday or all day today, which makes my intuitions think it's not happening, giving bad vibes already so far honestly Well I am a big believer if following your intuition, just make sure it's your intuition and not your expectations and anxiety driving the ship. Please keep us updated, I am really hoping he texts you soon!!!
basil67 Posted October 13, 2022 Posted October 13, 2022 Is the date far away or difficult to get to? 1
Author sushiandtacos Posted October 13, 2022 Author Posted October 13, 2022 3 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Well I am a big believer if following your intuition, just make sure it's your intuition and not your expectations and anxiety driving the ship. Please keep us updated, I am really hoping he texts you soon!!! Thanks poppy
Author sushiandtacos Posted October 13, 2022 Author Posted October 13, 2022 1 minute ago, basil67 said: Is the date far away or difficult to get to? No it's a minute walk from me haha But still don't want to show up alone and get stood up. My friend just told me this place he wanted to go to is reservations only, so now I'm really confused
Author sushiandtacos Posted October 13, 2022 Author Posted October 13, 2022 He texted lmao i guess it's still on? Ugh i hate dating ya'll 3
princessaurora Posted October 13, 2022 Posted October 13, 2022 Calm down girlie and quit worrying. You telling him the time still worked was confrmation. He probably just didn't want to seem too eager by texting again. Guys worry about that stuff too. 1 1
Author sushiandtacos Posted October 13, 2022 Author Posted October 13, 2022 Just now, princessaurora said: Calm down girlie and quit worrying. You telling him the time still worked was confrmation. He probably just didn't want to seem too eager by texting again. Guys worry about that stuff too. Thanks princess Getting ready now!! 1
Author sushiandtacos Posted October 14, 2022 Author Posted October 14, 2022 Guys I don't know about this one, he seemed pleasant but was awkward, maybe he was nervous? He was fidgeting a lot and stumbling on his words. Funny enough, at the end he thanked me for sending a confirmation text before because he said he was bad about that. Makes me think if he's playing games
basil67 Posted October 14, 2022 Posted October 14, 2022 I'm not seeing games with him admitting that he's bad with confirmation texts. Was the awkwardness enough to write him off?
glows Posted October 14, 2022 Posted October 14, 2022 Maybe you’re still a little put off by his delayed response. Was it all awkward? Did you laugh or chat about anything in common? Was the food any good? Or coffee? Did he say anything about wanting to see you again at the end? When a meeting or date goes well usually someone says something about meeting again. It doesn’t always mean it happens but there’s a bit of a start. I’m curious what gave you the impression he was playing games. Did he seem insincere or aloof, disinterested? 1
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