bene Posted October 8, 2022 Posted October 8, 2022 It’s one thing to entertain a thought of some vague better future and great things that await after leaving his relationship. It’s another thing when it suddenly materializes and he has to make actual decisions. The relationship with you might have been just a pipe dream. 1
Author Asking1 Posted October 8, 2022 Author Posted October 8, 2022 1 minute ago, bene said: It’s one thing to entertain a thought of some vague better future and great things that await after leaving his relationship. It’s another thing when it suddenly materializes and he has to make actual decisions. The relationship with you might have been just a pipe dream. Yes, it might have, indeed. Thank you.
BaileyB Posted October 8, 2022 Posted October 8, 2022 3 hours ago, Asking1 said: Maybe one could expect this when casual dating in their 20s, but I find it impossible to understand from someone who is 40 and used to be a friend. We should know better what respect is, if not anything else. Indeed. He could have communicated his feelings and intentions in a more direct and respectful way. 1
Gaeta Posted October 9, 2022 Posted October 9, 2022 Do not, ever, wait on a man. If it's meant to be then your path will cross again but meanwhile you need to live your life and that includes dating other men. It doesn't mean you'll meet someone else but you will learn from each dating experience along the way AND you may come across the next love of your life and this man here will appear insignificant. I don't think what you had with him in the past has any meaning. I think you were just 2 unhappy adults that found comfort in the thought there is someone else out there. 2 1
Author Asking1 Posted October 9, 2022 Author Posted October 9, 2022 8 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Do not, ever, wait on a man. If it's meant to be then your path will cross again but meanwhile you need to live your life and that includes dating other men. It doesn't mean you'll meet someone else but you will learn from each dating experience along the way AND you may come across the next love of your life and this man here will appear insignificant. I don't think what you had with him in the past has any meaning. I think you were just 2 unhappy adults that found comfort in the thought there is someone else out there. Thank you, Gaeta. I am not ready for dating someone else yet, as I think I have fallen for him already a while ago, but I agree to all you said, it is right.
stillafool Posted October 9, 2022 Posted October 9, 2022 On 10/6/2022 at 9:07 PM, Asking1 said: You are absolutely right, I might have taken for granted the fact that he ended the relationship and all the confusion that this change brought into his life after 10 years with his partner. Thank you for sharing this. After a 10 year relationship that he just ended a few months ago he probably did feel footloose and fancy free for a while until reality set in that it's really over and she's gone. Now he's probably depressed and sulking. They weren't married and he could have left her a long time ago if he didn't love her but was in love with you. I would leave him alone and let him heal or more than likely try to get back with her. 1
Author Asking1 Posted October 9, 2022 Author Posted October 9, 2022 9 minutes ago, stillafool said: After a 10 year relationship that he just ended a few months ago he probably did feel footloose and fancy free for a while until reality set in that it's really over and she's gone. Now he's probably depressed and sulking. They weren't married and he could have left her a long time ago if he didn't love her but was in love with you. I would leave him alone and let him heal or more than likely try to get back with her. Thank you for your reply. Yes, indeed, it could be that. I will definitely give him time and space, even if he is over her, I wouldn't want to be his rebound, it is too soon to start something serious after 10 years with one person.
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