Angelina1433 Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 So, my long time boyfriend of many, many years broke up about 2 months ago. For about 1 month, we've had NC. Since then, I've dated several guys, all which have been into me, but I don't want any of them. I tend to compare them to my ex who was fantastic. There was one man that I thought I wanted, but he wasn't into me, and I found that he was an a**hole - although if he asked me out, I'd still go (always want what you can't have?). So my question is, are these other guys just really not up to par, or do I still want my ex back? I must admit, my standards are a lot higher than they used to be, but these guys I've dated are great - I just pick them apart in my head. It's driving me crazy, and I'm overwhelmed by the dating drama/game. I know - poor girl with lots of dates...But I'm really upset over this. Seriously.
glittergurl Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 You are so not over your past relationship. Give yourself more time. Why this need to find another boyfriend right away?
Lishy Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 You are not ready for a new relationship. Allow yourself to grieve for your lost ex and take time out with no dating until you feel like you are over your ex!!!!!! Why have a rebound you will just get hurt!
Lishy Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 wow we put the same answer at the same time!!!!!!!! Spooky!
Author Angelina1433 Posted October 26, 2005 Author Posted October 26, 2005 Must mean both of you are right! I know I'm not completely over my ex, but the guy that I couldn't have seriously made me giddy. I think it will take a long, long time to get over him. But what if one of these guys that I'm dating is really the one for me? Am I risking the chance for a great relationship? Ugh.
Lishy Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 you are just not ready hon!!!! NO guy will be good enough for you right now as he is not your ex! You want the one who didnt want you simply because you cant have him!!! Get over your ex before you go back to the dating game! Good luck hon
noclobber Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 There was one man that I thought I wanted, but he wasn't into me, and I found that he was an a**hole - although if he asked me out, I'd still go (always want what you can't have?). Alpha did u see this yet?
Lishy Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 It was probably Alpha that she wanted !!!!!! hahahhaha
glittergurl Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 lol Lishy yes that's freaky, and the freakiest part is that friends call me "Lissy" Anyway, Angelina; life is not like some kind of bingo game. You're not gonna miss on a good deal just because you're not man-hunting 24/7. Give yourself time; you'll notice things come so naturally when you're ready for it.
Author Angelina1433 Posted October 26, 2005 Author Posted October 26, 2005 Thanks Lishy and noclobber - just what I need, someone making fun of my issues Thanks for your other advice, though Lishy.
noclobber Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 Thanks Lishy and noclobber - just what I need, someone making fun of my issues Thanks for your other advice, though Lishy. oops sorry! don't let it get to you. we have several threads discussing why women tend to fall for a**h***s and ur topic reminded me of that.
Lishy Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 Ooooops sorry hon I wasn't making fun of you! Sorry if i offended you, it was not intentional
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