girlfriendSeXy Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 months. I know it seems soon but we allready know we want to get married one day. He even told me he is going to ask me to marry him my senior year when he has done graduated. Anyways, he has pictures of his ex from homecoming in his room from last year and he even has old notes from her. Should this bother me? Because it does! It just bothers me because shes his ex. If it was a friend it wouldn't be AS weird but i mean come on. I even asked him about it and i tried to hint to him that it bothered me and even turned the frames around when he wasnt looking but he still has them in his room. It even bothers me when I see her in the hallway. She also STOLE his virginity and it pisses me off that she broke up with him a week later. I mean im glad she did but i just dont now why i DONT LIKE HER AT ALL... She never did ne thing wrong to me. He's in a higher grade too obviously....i cant always keep an eye on him ya know and he has classes with her and he says the reason he has those pics is kus there still friends but the picture in a way represents "more" that just friends. and the shirt and any clothing he wore in the picture i hate! with a passion. i dont know if this means im obsessed or too jealous and i shouldnt be jealous if i really love him. wich i do. more than ne thing! EVER...but someone plees help me make since of my problems!!! i need it....fast befre i snap.
morrigan Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 he has pictures of his ex from homecoming in his room from last year and he even has old notes from her. Should this bother me? Because it does! It just bothers me because shes his ex. It's mementos of a person's past. It doesn't have any impact on your relationship with him, unless he is actively trying to get back with her. You've never kept old photos/letters from an ex of yours or a guy that you once cared about? It even bothers me when I see her in the hallway. She also STOLE his virginity and it pisses me off that she broke up with him a week later Loving someone means that you accept their history with an ex (and their sexual experiences), and that you recognize that it is in the past. It doesn't mean you have to think this girl is a sweetheart, it means that your bf's past relationships have shaped the person you now love. This jealousy is not only going to drive you crazy, it's has the potential to wreck any relationship you have. You can't control anyone's past or their feelings. I think you need to stop worrying about this girl. View it in this way--she was foolish enough to give up a great guy.
tonyp56 Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 I am 28, I was with my wife for a total of 11 years (almost 7 married) she's left me now, but anyways, I STILL have letters from a girlfriend I had 2 years before I met her. They are in a box, haven't looked at them in over a decade, but I still have them. I don't know why, but they have stayed with me all this time. The girlfriend, well, I don't think about her at all, haven't since I met my wife, but I still have her letters. The point is, it means nothing. If he has them on display, perhaps you could get a photo of you the same size and give it to him. Then maybe--sometimes us men are a little slow--he will put it in the place of her picture. But other wise don't let it bother you.
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