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talking to girls via text. What if they dont flirt back or ignore certain messages?

 

 

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It all depends on the contenxt.   Can you give examples of how you met and how long you've been talking?  And what kind of messages do they ignore?  

Obviously you wouldn't want to be flirting and sending questionable messages to friends or workmates.  It's different story if you've met on a dating app.....but even then, a certain level of decorum is expected by many women.

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Flirting in text is very difficult.  Anything you text can be interpreted different unexpected ways.

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That is your cue to tone it down, or end the conversation because she is not reciprocating. 

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Are you asking them out? If not why not?  If you are not asking them out, they'll get bored and move on to someone who does.

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It’s probably going too fast in a strange or forced way. These are multiple individuals not responding to you flirting with them? 

What you’re doing remember there are probably a lot of other guys doing. Everyone wants to get with someone. Be more sincere and ask them out. You know, actually behave like a real person who cares and wants to get to know them. Go easy and let things unfold more naturally and focus on in person dates.

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What type of flirting?

A compliment is ok but be careful, do not compliment her on her body, compliment her on her smile, eyes, wittiness, etc.

If you call flirting a sexual innuendo, then it's inappropriate if it's toward a woman you have not met yet. Even after meeting it's still inappropriate until she made it clear she's attracted that way toward you. 

If women are not replying, it's because you were annoying or you were way out of line in your comment. 

Again, when approaching a woman online, or meeting them for the first time, concentrate on the 'human being' and less on the "female you can get something from'. Treat her like you'd like a man to treat your sister or your mother. 

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On 9/30/2022 at 2:54 PM, Gaeta said:

What type of flirting?

A compliment is ok but be careful, do not compliment her on her body, compliment her on her smile, eyes, wittiness, etc.

If you call flirting a sexual innuendo, then it's inappropriate if it's toward a woman you have not met yet. Even after meeting it's still inappropriate until she made it clear she's attracted that way toward you. 

If women are not replying, it's because you were annoying or you were way out of line in your comment. 

Again, when approaching a woman online, or meeting them for the first time, concentrate on the 'human being' and less on the "female you can get something from'. Treat her like you'd like a man to treat your sister or your mother. 

sexual flirting is inappropriate when you havnt met them met?

my mate does it all the time and girls do it too!

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Again, I want to know who these women are who you're approaching.   Are they women you've found on a dating app or are you sliding into their DMs and saying sexy things?

Regarding your mate, I'm going to bet that he is either good looking and/or is excellent at reading others and/or is smooth.   Thing is, it's a fact of life that two different people can use the exact same phrase and one will be welcomed and the other will find themselves blocked - it's all about chemistry, reading the room and delivery.   With sexual flirting, it's essential that you have already established that they are sexually attracted to you, otherwise they will think you're being creepy and block you.   

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7 hours ago, fred123 said:

sexual flirting is inappropriate when you havnt met them met?

my mate does it all the time and girls do it too!

You don't have enough game or experience, or confidence to use sexual flirting on women you've just approached.

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15 hours ago, Gaeta said:

You don't have enough game or experience, or confidence to use sexual flirting on women you've just approached.

really?

you can tell how?

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8 hours ago, fred123 said:

really?

you can tell how?

I agree with Gaeta.  I can tell because of the questions you ask.  It strongly appears that you struggle with reading women and knowing when to make advances.  And if I can see it, so can the women you are talking with.

Have you ever tried working with a therapist who can give you a clearer understanding of social cues?

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13 hours ago, basil67 said:

I agree with Gaeta.  I can tell because of the questions you ask.  It strongly appears that you struggle with reading women and knowing when to make advances.  And if I can see it, so can the women you are talking with.

Have you ever tried working with a therapist who can give you a clearer understanding of social cues?

i might have adhd or something. getting help as we speak.

its very conflicting dating as my guy friends are quite successful and when i do the same thing it backfires. 

If you go on like r eddit forums you rrad about things like nevermets etc. It seems pretty obvious that success stories normally have certain similar traits to them. 

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23 hours ago, fred123 said:

really?

you can tell how?

because you are here asking about it. 

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