How long did you wait?

[Nur]

I'm with my first boyfriend now, at age eighteen, and we've been dating for four months. I'm only his second girlfriend ever, and we were very close friends for three years before we began going out, and I would confidently say that he knows me as well as my sister does, and vice-versa. The issue of taking our relationship to the sexual level has come up -- we both want to, eventually, and are both virgins.

 

Scanning through the posts here, I see that four-six months seems a pretty average time to be dating before going all the way. However, I also notice that some relationships end abruptly after "taking the plunge." Has anyone experienced this? If so, why did it suddenly end?

 

I'm also interested in how long some other couples chose to wait before going farther. What are some indications that you are both truly ready? Neither of us minds putting it off until the summer, possibly, when we can see each other more often (we only see each other a few days a week and call the other days currently). There is no rush; we are only considering it.

 

So, what are some experiences of you other forumers? How long did you date the person who took your virginity? Did you experience a sudden urge to end the relationship afterward? If so, was there an explanation? I know it's a big step, and one you can't go back on. Did anyone have any regrets, and wish they had waited longer, or discovered they weren't actually ready, when they thought they were at the time?

 

Thanks for your input.

[submart]

There is no specific time you can put on it.

 

Do make sure you are in love with each other, have two forms of birth control, and have a back-up plan if you should become pregnant.

 

The first six months of a relationship can be called the honeymoon stage where you are high on emotions...you may want to wait until that dwindles.

 

Having sex won't ruin a healthy relationship, and should only make it stronger. Good for you two for discussing it in advance.

 

I waited 8 months before having sex with my ex. We were both virgins and were in love. The relationship lasted a year and a half. I was 20 he was 19. No real regrets! We just were not meant to be...not compatible by any means. Will always have a special place in my heart though.

 

He's the only guy I've dated that I had sex with to this day! I'm falling for a guy I've been dating for 3 months now. When the time is right..we may have sex.

 

Best to you!