spicy Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Hi Wonderful People, As you know, I was just dumped a week ago. My boyfriend blamed it on us living 1 hour apart and that he wasn't able to committ to seeing me during the week, so he ended it. When he ended it he was so confused and thought he might be making the biggest mistake. He left my house e-mailed the next night and I didn't respond. I haven't heard from him since. It's been hard for me to move on because I know that he wasn't 100% sure that he was making the right decision. Do you think that a man regrets dumping a woman a lot of the time? Should I move forward and forget him? It's hard for me to let myself heal when I know he might come back for me. What do you suggest? Please Help!!!
MakeMeBeautiful Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 move on. don't mope around the house listening to sad love songs. it won't be easy but see other people. i swear it helps. when wes broke up with me i cried every night for two weeks then i told myself that i was no longer going to wait for him to realize that i was the best thing to happen to him and come back to me. i met someone else and when he did call me a month later, i was over him. we still talk and have remained good friends. i love the guy. he was a great guy. i still wanted him in my life but not as a boyfriend.
Author spicy Posted October 26, 2005 Author Posted October 26, 2005 Thanks for your reply. I think I know I need to move on but it is just so hard for me to do. I don't want to accept that the relationship is over. I still keep thinking of him sitting in his car for fifteen minutes after he broke up with me. I want him to come back to me. Why would he e-mail me the night after he broke up with me if he wasn't confused?
MakeMeBeautiful Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 i know how you feel. after i broke up with my first boyfriend five years ago i was never able to love anyone else again. i met a guy and i fell head over heels for him. the relationship was intense and passionate. when i am with him he makes me feel either extremely happy or extremely agitated. when we broke up i was cried every time i saw something that reminded of us. even my coworkers noticed that something was wrong. i would sit and stare at the pictures we took the last time we saw each other. i cried when i saw a mercury sable because we rented a mercury sable and he nicknamed it "little sae sae". to make matters worse the weekend after he broke up with me i had a good friend visiting from out of town. he needed my help to find a ring for his girlfriend. can you imagine going ring shopping when you are heartbroken? i wished with all my heart that he would come back to me. i wanted him to lie to me and keep in the dark if it meant that we would still be together. it was better than losing him. i accepted a date with a guy that i was not particularly interested in. but in time i began to grow fond of him. when wes called me, i had been dating a new guy for a few weeks. i still love him but i now know that it is best if we stayed friends. it is sometimes hard to just be friends especially since we were more than just friends. it doesn't seem like it right now but i promise that it does get better. respect his choice to break up with you and when he realizes that you are the perfect girl for him, he will come back. at that time it is up to you to decide whether or not you want to take him back. don't make it too easy. while he is trying to find out what he wants, don't sit around and wait. even if you don't go out with other guys, go out with your girlfriends. take up a hobby. do anything to keep your mind off of him.
Author spicy Posted October 26, 2005 Author Posted October 26, 2005 Thanks for your reply. That must have been awful what you went through. I think that it is just going to take time for me to get through. I truly thought that this relationship would turn out different, so it hurts inside when it doesn't. I'm going to put all my effort into making myself a better person. My ego hurts really bad right now. All I can think about is what did I do wrong, how could I have avoided this. I guess it was probably inevitable. Your advice really helps me. Thankyou.
MakeMeBeautiful Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 you're welcome. i also thought that this time would be different. i trusted him and i left my usual doubts behind. i hurts i know. you are probably wondering what you did wrong, what is wrong with you, what didn't he like about me, am i not pretty enough, am i too fat...but like i said before, just let it go. allow yourself some time to grieve. set a time limit and say i will only mope around for XX days. you really cared about the guy, you deserve some time grieve over the loss of the relationship. but after that i insist that you go on with your life. don't let your existence be dependent on his. if he comes back he comes back but don't hold your breath.
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