Syre17 Posted September 25, 2022 Posted September 25, 2022 The last time I posted about my former affair/AP was back in August of 2020. That post was when I celebrated one year of NC. So yesterday, I was busy doing some work around the house and picked up my phone once finished. Low and behold, there were two notifications on my screen from Facebook messenger. One was that she had unsent a message and the other was still there, just an apostrophe. So weird! At any rate, it was interesting and a bit ironic as I was just thinking recently how it’d been just over three years of NC. I thought about how I felt seeing the message, or notification rather, and I was glad that I felt absolutely nothing. The “rush” or “excitement” that I would have once felt, to see a notification on the screen while in the throes of the affair, were gone, and I’m so glad. 2
Wiseman2 Posted September 25, 2022 Posted September 25, 2022 29 minutes ago, Syre17 said: , there were two notifications on my screen from Facebook messenger. One was that she had unsent a message and the other was still there, just an apostrophe. Just curious why you are leaving the door open rather than deleting and blocking her? 1
Author Syre17 Posted September 25, 2022 Author Posted September 25, 2022 22 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Just curious why you are leaving the door open rather than deleting and blocking her? I really don’t need to do any of that to exercise self control, obviously, after three years of me initiating NC. That aside from my email address and business phone numbers are plastered all over the internet, due to a few businesses that I own. I’m not difficult to reach. No one really is in this day and age. 2
stillafool Posted September 25, 2022 Posted September 25, 2022 So sorry you don't have a way to completely block her. The purpose of blocking is so you aren't triggered and end up with them back on your mind the way she is now. Glad you have self control and made it this far without contacting her.
glows Posted September 25, 2022 Posted September 25, 2022 6 hours ago, Syre17 said: The last time I posted about my former affair/AP was back in August of 2020. That post was when I celebrated one year of NC. So yesterday, I was busy doing some work around the house and picked up my phone once finished. Low and behold, there were two notifications on my screen from Facebook messenger. One was that she had unsent a message and the other was still there, just an apostrophe. So weird! At any rate, it was interesting and a bit ironic as I was just thinking recently how it’d been just over three years of NC. I thought about how I felt seeing the message, or notification rather, and I was glad that I felt absolutely nothing. The “rush” or “excitement” that I would have once felt, to see a notification on the screen while in the throes of the affair, were gone, and I’m so glad. Agree. Ignore and disregard. It seems she too regretted an initial message and withdrew it. A human moment even though I’m sure it must have felt a bit weird seeing that.
Author Syre17 Posted September 25, 2022 Author Posted September 25, 2022 58 minutes ago, stillafool said: So sorry you don't have a way to completely block her. The purpose of blocking is so you aren't triggered and end up with them back on your mind the way she is now. Glad you have self control and made it this far without contacting her. Yes, understand. There’s definitely nothing there on my end. She could show up on my doorstep tomorrow as a divorced woman, and I’d say “no thanks”…and I’m actually single! That proverbial ship sailed a long time ago… 3
OKtoday Posted September 25, 2022 Posted September 25, 2022 5 minutes ago, Syre17 said: Yes, understand. There’s definitely nothing there on my end. She could show up on my doorstep tomorrow as a divorced woman, and I’d say “no thanks”…and I’m actually single! That proverbial ship sailed a long time ago… Congrats! This was almost like a reward for you to see your internal growth. 1
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