leila51 Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 If I go to a party or travel I like to be with my husband all the time. My work is more felxible so I can get more time off. He always encourge me to go and visit my family or go out with friends, but I want to be with him. It is not that I need to control him, I just feel good being with him. I would like to get ride of this feeling I want to be as happy without him being around......... I have not been like this in the past I do not what is changed may be aging? He is going to visit his family overseas in December. I do not want to go though my family are living in the same country, but I feel sad that he is going. I like to visit my brother, we get along very well and can do lots of fun stuff, part me wishes he could have come with me to visit my brother and do some activities together, but he is missing his family and probably i should understand.
Scott S Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Has something occured recently to make you feel unusually possessive of him? Have you sat down with him to discuss these feelings, & the possible reasons? I read your other posts, & apparently there are some cultural issues with extended families that I cannot fully understand. My European ancestry is several generations removed, & we are quite Americanized. Does your husband not want you to go with him, or do you not wish to? You wrote that some of his family members are hard to take, but can you handle it for a couple days? Suppose you were to take a couple days to visit your brother & other family members. Is that feasible?
Author leila51 Posted October 25, 2005 Author Posted October 25, 2005 My brother lives here in canada. It is not that he does not want me to go with him, I rather have a shorter trip for Xmas holiday. It is more of my feeling that bothering me? I want to let him go and I would go and have fun with my brother as well. Is that odd? I know if I go with my brother I start missing him and If I go overseas I won't have a good time....
Scott S Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 My brother lives here in canada. It is not that he does not want me to go with him, I rather have a shorter trip for Xmas holiday. It is more of my feeling that bothering me? I want to let him go and I would go and have fun with my brother as well. Is that odd? I know if I go with my brother I start missing him and If I go overseas I won't have a good time.... I'm sorry. I thought your brother was in Europe. I can certainly understand that you would miss him. I like having my wife nearby, & I miss her a lot when she's gone for a time. However, we are not conjoined, we each have our own lives outside our marriage. While we each regard the other as the most important person in our lives, we are not the only ones in our lives. Perhaps let him go, you have a nice trip to Canada, & think about how happy you'll be to see each other again when you return.
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