fred123 Posted September 14, 2022 Posted September 14, 2022 texting back and forth a few times. tried calling her and she never picked up. its been a week. iv shown interest by calling her so not much I can do. If she calls me back il ignore for a weel also?
basil67 Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Ignoring her for a week would be a childish response. If you think she's playing games, don't play them back. Just block her. 2
Gaeta Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 She is not interested, continue your search. 2
Wiseman2 Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 9 hours ago, fred123 said: If she calls me back il ignore for a weel also? Did you leave a specific vm? If you are not interested don't bother playing games. Take this as a sign to delete and block and move forward.
BaileyB Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 Basil and Gaeta hit the nail right on the head.
introverted1 Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 (edited) Did you leave a message? Or are you assuming she should call back by virtue of seeing your number in her missed call log? Edited September 15, 2022 by introverted1 2
Author fred123 Posted September 15, 2022 Author Posted September 15, 2022 6 hours ago, introverted1 said: Did you leave a message? Or are you assuming she should call back by virtue of seeing your number in her missed call log? isnt that how it works?
basil67 Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 (edited) If it's someone you barely know, leave a message. Or a follow up text. Edited September 15, 2022 by basil67
introverted1 Posted September 15, 2022 Posted September 15, 2022 4 minutes ago, fred123 said: isnt that how it works? Maybe for an established friend or SO, but not for someone you've never spoken to on the phone before. For all she knows, it was a pocket dial. Granted, she could have called or even texted to ask, but it's also possible she hasn't put your name in her phone and the number alone wouldn't tell her who it is, unless she's comparing her phone log to her text messages. In future, if you call someone, leave a message. Then if they don't return the call, you'll know it's a clear indicator of disinterest. 1
Alpacalia Posted September 16, 2022 Posted September 16, 2022 (edited) 5 hours ago, fred123 said: isnt that how it works? Not really. It's not uncommon for people to not call back missed phone calls when they don't recognize the number. They may perceive those calls as creepy crank calls. Why not leave a brief message instead of making the other person wonder why you called? Just leave a message next time you call. Problem solved. If you've already tried to reach her and left messages and she hasn't replied, I can understand not wanting to leave a message. If this is the case, no need to reach out again. Edited September 16, 2022 by Alpacalia
Wiseman2 Posted September 16, 2022 Posted September 16, 2022 7 hours ago, fred123 said: isnt that how it works? So you just dailed the number? Why would she call back?
smackie9 Posted September 16, 2022 Posted September 16, 2022 You don't just call them you ASK if you can give them a call. 1
Author fred123 Posted September 16, 2022 Author Posted September 16, 2022 15 hours ago, Alpacalia said: Not really. It's not uncommon for people to not call back missed phone calls when they don't recognize the number. They may perceive those calls as creepy crank calls. Why not leave a brief message instead of making the other person wonder why you called? Just leave a message next time you call. Problem solved. If you've already tried to reach her and left messages and she hasn't replied, I can understand not wanting to leave a message. If this is the case, no need to reach out again. they know who i am. we have texted a quite a bit
basil67 Posted September 16, 2022 Posted September 16, 2022 Has she been texting with you since the phone call? If so, tell her that you'd like to call and ask her what a good time would be
mortensorchid Posted September 17, 2022 Posted September 17, 2022 Just move on. She is telling you she's not interested enough to return your call. It's rude AF but show me one person who hasn't done that in the past.
Wiseman2 Posted September 17, 2022 Posted September 17, 2022 A lot of people have robocall blockers or automatically block unknown callers. So send a text stating you would like to call and when is a convenient time.
Alpacalia Posted September 17, 2022 Posted September 17, 2022 (edited) 18 hours ago, fred123 said: they know who i am. we have texted a quite a bit It is my general perception that if people want to leave a message, they will. The onus is on me if I call then I leave a message. Is there a reason you keep calling without leaving a message? Is your missed call meant to gauge her interest, and do you think if she is interested, she will dial you back? Or are you trying to make her "wonder?" Is it still a talking stage or have you been on an actual date with this woman? Edited September 17, 2022 by Alpacalia
Author fred123 Posted September 17, 2022 Author Posted September 17, 2022 2 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: It is my general perception that if people want to leave a message, they will. The onus is on me if I call then I leave a message. Is there a reason you keep calling without leaving a message? Is your missed call meant to gauge her interest, and do you think if she is interested, she will dial you back? Or are you trying to make her "wonder?" no i called to chat with her on the phone. its more personal. she didnt reply to that missed call. iv texted her her saying "i tried calling earlier. let.me know when you are free to speak"
Alpacalia Posted September 17, 2022 Posted September 17, 2022 2 minutes ago, fred123 said: no i called to chat with her on the phone. its more personal. she didnt reply to that missed call. iv texted her her saying "i tried calling earlier. let.me know when you are free to speak" Has she responded to your message letting you know when she's free? After a week, if she hasn't contacted you about a convenient time to speak, then this is pretty much dead in the water. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted September 18, 2022 Posted September 18, 2022 14 hours ago, fred123 said: iv texted her her saying "i tried calling earlier. let.me know when you are free to speak" When, a week ago after you called, or just now? And when you don't know someone, it's best to ask them when a convenient time to call is. Don't just dial them up out of the blue.
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