spicy Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Hello Everyone, I need all of your great advice and help. I was taken out to dinner and then dumped 7 days ago by a man that I felt very deeply for. We are both 26 years old and have similar backgrounds. I was the first girl that he had introduced to his family. He blamed the "dumping" on long distance. We live an hour apart. A week before the dumping everything was going great. We were really into each other. Then I told him if we were going to date each other exclusively then I needed him to come down to visit me at least once per week. He agreed and said if he could see me everynight he would. He wanted to be able to have "date nights" during the week. He continued to call me but didn't make an effort to see me. Then he drove up a week later and dumped me. The reason I'm having trouble letting him go is that it was really hard for him to end the relationship. He sat on my couch after dinner and said "I'm really confused", "this is a lot harder than I though", "I don't know if I'm making the right decision". I politely asked him to leave and he didn't want to leave. He finally left. I looked outside 15 minutes later and he was sitting in his car. I haven't tried to conact him since and he e-mailed me and said "sorry for being an a**h***, wanted to say hi. and then told me about his work day. Anyways, do you think it's really over. My heart tells me he is going to regret his decision. Do you think that I'm being stupid and that I should really move on. Please help!!!
Ruff Ryder Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 im a guy. If i sta in my car outside a ladies house it would mean that i made a wrong choice and pride would stop me from admitting it. At the end of the day it is your decision to take fight for him or let him go... I think that to trow it all away is a wast of time and effort. You must decide (bearing in mind it might happen again.) Do you want him in your life or would you rather move on? If i was you id play it out for a while see what happens (only if you think he is worth it) Just relax and maybe enjoy some freedom. hope that helps a bit
Author spicy Posted October 28, 2005 Author Posted October 28, 2005 Thank you for responding ruff ryder. I really appreciate your help. My question is now it is Friday and he broke up with me 11 days ago. He tried to contact me on that tuesday night through an e-mail stating "sorry for being an a**h***, had a bad day at work, just wanted to say hi. blah blah blah. I didn't respond and he hasn't tried to call me back since. Does that mean he is over it? Even though he sat in his car contemplating his decision and even if he felt he made the wrong decision, don't you think he would try a little harder to get me back? Please respond whenever you get a chance. I can't thank you enough. I want him back so badly.
Ruff Ryder Posted October 28, 2005 Posted October 28, 2005 In love as it is in life we never know what might happens. Some people will say it unfair and other will say it has a purpose. All the things in life that happen (wether we want then to or not) happen for a reason. In your case i feel that he knows he made a stupid decission and his pride is stopping him from calling. So dont lose faith yet (dont wait around for him i mean if you have a chance to be happy with someone else take it with arms wide open) You see if we all knew what would happen next life love and everything else would lose its mystry all together. I know you hurting and the pain is so hard to bear but hold stong (you are stong enought to survive with or with out him) You must know that happy days anrt far away (to love is easy but it aint easy to walk away) and that is the exact case here. Let him go if the forces of nature (GOD) say that you to must be together then you will be make no mistake about that. Thats why i say love is crazy you just never know. Just sit tight for a while maybe drop him a mail to see how he is doing. Hope that helps Ruff Ryder
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