baltimoregirl42 Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 As a smart, adventurous, sexually-free 20 something woman I am perplexed by my boyfriend's obsession. While our sex life is less then satisfying (I get it about once a week if I'm lucky), he has an extensive collection of porn DVD's all centered around c*mshots. Now, I own a fair amount of porn myself, and I have no problem with it at all. However, the stuff I own has actual sex/oral in it. These movies he has are 30-60 second "shot" after "shot". Very little interaction other than the $ shot all over the girl's face, breasts, etc. And these are 4 hour long movies!!!!! So I guess I have 2 questions: 1) What's the appeal of watching the $ shot w/out any sex or oral preceding it? 2) He has never been a very giving lover (i.e. doesn't go down on me unless I ask, I always initiate sex, very little or no foreplay). Is it likely that watching these types of "movies" contributes to that? I have tried everything. I even let him c*m on my face, back, wherever he wants, because I know it turns him on. I was hoping this would lead to me gettign some more action or him initiating sex more often. I even offer to "service" him if he's had a stressful day and don't ask for anything in return, yet he rarely takes me up on it. What's a girl to do?
alphamale Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 1) What's the appeal of watching the $ shot w/out any sex or oral preceding it? Few men get to do a facial in real life, most women won't allow it cause they think it is degrading. For a man it is extremely exciting to see a beautiful woman get a huge load squirted all over her face and in her mouth. It is very naughty mainly cause most men don't get to do it too often. 2) He has never been a very giving lover (i.e. doesn't go down on me unless I ask, I always initiate sex, very little or no foreplay). Is it likely that watching these types of "movies" contributes to that? Highly unlikely...
933KJL Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 At one point when I was somewhat into porn, I bought from a catalogue and the descriptions were not accurate and the DVDs I got were all like you said--cumshot after cumshot. It is not my thing--and I am with you I would prefer to see some semblanc of a plot, but it could be he bought something and it ended up being just the snippets. I imagine the cum shots are a money maker in that you do not recognize the actors and hence no need to pay royalties. If it is legal who knows, but I imagine that is the impetus behind making them. As for going (or not going) down on you--that stinks. It has been debated here ad nauseum, and no real definitive answers other than stick it out or bail out.
Superfly Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 I am a guy and I think it is degrading to a girl unless she likes it which I would think very unlikely
Art_Critic Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 I am a guy and I think it is degrading to a girl unless she likes it which I would think very unlikely A few years ago I had a gf that loved to have me blow all over her face.. and rub it in.. She also loved to have her hair pulled I did it because she wanted it done:) but I do think it is degrading to a woman to just pull out and shoot on her face.. Ask him about his porn collection.. Maybe make your own Or maybe it's time you both bought a new collection..
alphamale Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 I would prefer to see some semblanc of a plot,. surely you jest, J33KJL....if I want plot I'll go to the nearest cinema and see a PG-13 movie.
glittergurl Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Ewww you let him cum on your face? That's F?cking disgusting.
johnny1968 Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 I think it's just a fetish thing and that's simply what turns him on. I seriously doubt that his fetish has anything to do with his indifference to sex. There could be one of several dynamics going on but only two come to mind for me. 1. It could very well be that he considers sex overrated, and just isn't "into" all the "hard work" involved in acheiving orgasm. Yes, some selfish people actually do think this way. 2. (I can only speak from experience on this one.) It may make things much more exciting for him if the sexual focus shifts from him to you. The worst lover's I've had, always seemed to be the ones who relied "on the man" to initiate everything. Every time I've been with a woman who looked to me exclusively to generate the "sexual experience", I would loose interest really fast. The best lover's I've been with, have been women who were comfortable with their own sexuality, and who were open to the idea of sharing her needs and preferences with me. Sex with those type of women often seems more like "play time", and it is (for me) the best ever! If she shares with me that she likes toys, (after we've established our sexual relationship) I'll buy a fun new toy that we can both play with. If she likes her breasts stimulated, we'll have fun playing with variations on that from time to time. My main point is that if you're willing to tell (or show) him what you need, and he's willing to explore those possibilities with you, it may very well inject a whole new spice into your sexual relationship. If he's not willing to explore and experience new things with you as a lover, then the problem lies with him, and you'll likely never change that.
TUDOR Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Your boyfriend doesn't know how good he hast it and if he continues to fall short of your expectations then move on to some one that will appreciate your giving nature!!!
Art_Critic Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Ewww you let him cum on your face? That's F?cking disgusting. ......
TUDOR Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 ...... Is it just me or does this.. resemble a money shot?
morrigan Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 My main point is that if you're willing to tell (or show) him what you need, and he's willing to explore those possibilities with you, it may very well inject a whole new spice into your sexual relationship. If he's not willing to explore and experience new things with you as a lover, then the problem lies with him, and you'll likely never change that. As far as hardcore bdsm, urolagia and other unvanilla scenarios, there's obviously a dominant and dirty factor to it. Some people want to enjoy it in real life, some just like to view it on occasion. It really doesn't matter what the porn scenarios are that your bf's looking at--it's how he responds to you sexually. It's only an issue if he prefers porn to having sex with a live female in the same room.
Author baltimoregirl42 Posted October 25, 2005 Author Posted October 25, 2005 I guess I just thought that it was a pretty good possibility that viewing these types of films (i.e. with no consideration for the woman's pleasure, all they show is the guy getting off time and time again) would make a selfish lover worse, as it would reinforce the notion that women are there simply for the man's pleasure and that they (the women) need no foreplay or stimulation at all. That women are happy simply because they are getting a load in the face. Also, if I'm offering to to do this for him then why not take me up on it, instead of locking himself in the bedroom with a DVD and a box of tissues. You men are a mystery to me.......
Art_Critic Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 You men are a mystery to me....... If you understood us you would cast us aside ..
whichwayisup Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Is it just me or does this.. resemble a money shot? Just change the colour and there ya have it! Now, the white gleaming teeth there....
JS17 Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 If you understood us you would cast us aside .. Holy Crap!!! That's my problem!!!
TUDOR Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Holy Crap!!! That's my problem!!! That's only one piece to the puzzle...
JS17 Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 That's only one piece to the puzzle... gee thanks tudor
TUDOR Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 gee thanks tudor Sorry! so tell us about your $ shot experiences!!
alphamale Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 could someone (preferrably male) please recommend a good compilation of money shots/facials? I'm looking for a DVD and I need the title and production company (Vivid, Xotika, XXXProductions, whatever...) Thanx
TUDOR Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 could someone (preferrably male) please recommend a good compilation of money shots/facials? I'm looking for a DVD and I need the title and production company (Vivid, Xotika, XXXProductions, whatever...) Thanx How about: "Say ahh bitch" "Eyes stuck shut" or my personal favorite..."Pearl neckless"
whichwayisup Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 How about: "Say ahh bitch" "Eyes stuck shut" or my personal favorite..."Pearl neckless" **WWIU heads to blockbusters....***
Author baltimoregirl42 Posted October 25, 2005 Author Posted October 25, 2005 So, I know this is going to sound harsh, but I am sorry to say that it's probably true: the guy has issues. With intimacy, with women, with sex, whatever. Something is clearly not right here. Am I on the right track?
Outcast Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Geeze what a sad bunch! What on earth is 'degrading' about having sperm on your face or hair? What old-fashioned Puritan values Ewww - that awful horrid stuff THAT MAKES EVERY HUMAN ON EARTH is soooo disgusting that it can only go in that dirty hole the woman has? I'm astonished anyone has sex when you are so consumed with the belief that everything about it is 'dirty' and 'disgusting'!!!! most women won't allow it cause they think it is degrading. Oh that's not true. LS has had threads on this and plenty of women have no problem at all. Why should it be degrading on your face but not in your mouth or on your hands. Does it change into poisonous vampire goo unless it's in your crotch?
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