its_me_123 Posted September 1, 2022 Posted September 1, 2022 Hi there, I have a first date coming up and wondered if it's a good idea to buy her a small gift relating to something she likes? Or is not really done these days? Any advice would be great, thanks!
Wiseman2 Posted September 1, 2022 Posted September 1, 2022 1 hour ago, its_me_123 said: I have a first date coming up and wondered if it's a good idea to buy her a small gift relating to something she likes? Depends what it is. Something simple like a single rose? How old is she?
Author its_me_123 Posted September 1, 2022 Author Posted September 1, 2022 She's 34. Was thinking s bracelet, but not an expensive one, something themed to what she likes.
Wiseman2 Posted September 1, 2022 Posted September 1, 2022 11 minutes ago, its_me_123 said: Was thinking s bracelet Too much. Save that for when a relationship evolves. Keep in mind, if you two hit it off there will be plenty of time and opportunities for something like this. You don't want to overwhelm or make anyone feel beholden. 1
BaileyB Posted September 1, 2022 Posted September 1, 2022 27 minutes ago, its_me_123 said: Was thinking s bracelet, but not an expensive one, something themed to what she likes. How do you know what she likes, you haven’t met the woman. No, I would not buy her a gift to give her the first time you meet her. Just buy the drink/food. 1
smackie9 Posted September 2, 2022 Posted September 2, 2022 (edited) That would be the biggest red flag to a woman. The greatest gift you could ever give on a first meet is to look good, clean and fresh, nice and tidy, and have a positive attitude with confidence. That is what gets a lady interested. It's called a good first impression. Throwing gifts and money at them is called desperation...gross. Edited September 2, 2022 by smackie9 2 1
basil67 Posted September 2, 2022 Posted September 2, 2022 On 9/2/2022 at 3:24 AM, its_me_123 said: Or is not really done these days? Was it ever done?
mrs rubble Posted September 3, 2022 Posted September 3, 2022 I once had a man give me a small bunch of flowers and a small box of chocolates on a first date. I thought that was quite sweet.
ShyViolet Posted September 3, 2022 Posted September 3, 2022 No, not on a first date. That would be super weird and inappropriate. If a guy gave me a gift on a first date it would totally creep me out and make me uncomfortable.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 3, 2022 Posted September 3, 2022 I'll echo the majority here - it's too soon for gifts. I would feel rather awkward if a guy I had never met showed up with a gift for me. Your heart might be in the right place, OP, but save that sort of gesture for a later date after you get to know each other.
basil67 Posted September 3, 2022 Posted September 3, 2022 3 hours ago, mrs rubble said: I once had a man give me a small bunch of flowers and a small box of chocolates on a first date. I thought that was quite sweet. While my vote is largely in the "no" category, I could get on board with this idea. A small bunch of flowers (not roses!) or a small box of chocolates. They aren't as personal as a bracelet but still shows thoughtfulness and generosity. 1
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