Logo Posted August 30, 2022 Posted August 30, 2022 I’m trying to plan a date that involves us doing something together, an activity where we’re not sitting across a table from each other or talking all the time, something fun, engaging, something where we can both get lost in the moment laugh, scream, joke, etc. Can you share some ideas? I know, it’s as fun as you make it, but still, you know what I mean.
basil67 Posted August 30, 2022 Posted August 30, 2022 Going to the beach would tick all these boxes for me. Laying in the sun, playing in the surf, more sun, more surf and a leisurely lunch and beer afterwards 1
Alpacalia Posted August 30, 2022 Posted August 30, 2022 (edited) Draw/paint each other. A simple date can be one of the most memorable. Edited August 30, 2022 by Alpacalia 1
Brian1223 Posted August 30, 2022 Posted August 30, 2022 (edited) 39 minutes ago, basil67 said: Going to the beach would tick all these boxes for me. Laying in the sun, playing in the surf, more sun, more surf and a leisurely lunch and beer afterwards You are so Australian love it. Good to see on here! Music gig for a mutually liked band/artist Hiking Theme Park/Game Arcade/Mini Golf/Kayaking/Paddle Boarding/Day Trip to a Zoo Basically any common interest that is an activity outside of breakfast/lunch/dinner... Even a road trip to your destination is fun without constantly talking, put on a nice playlist. I always find it easier for more natural conversation to flow when you are talking while doing something side by side rather than directly facing each other. Like even a nice stroll in a park. Feed the ducks etc. It really depends what you're into. I'm an outdoorsy active person so all my date ideas are aimed towards that. No point in suggesting things that are way off par in your interests or whats available to you locally though really Edited August 30, 2022 by Brian1223 1
Wiseman2 Posted August 30, 2022 Posted August 30, 2022 (edited) 4 hours ago, Logo said: something fun, engaging, something where we can both get lost in the moment laugh, scream, joke, etc. Who is this date? What are her tastes? If this is a first meet avoid weird, far away or bathing suit dates. Keep in mind the point is to get another date not be creepy or scare her off. Unless she's a real wet blanket you can have a great time whatever you do. You don't need a circus or skydiving to amuse someone interested in you. If you know her well enough it sounds like you're an amusement park kind of guy. Edited August 30, 2022 by Wiseman2 1
Clarity1 Posted August 30, 2022 Posted August 30, 2022 You should find out what she likes and base the date on that. No point in taking her to the beach if she hates the sand for example. 1
basil67 Posted August 30, 2022 Posted August 30, 2022 Ah yes, you didn't say what number date this is. If it's a first date, put the beach on hold.
Lotsgoingon Posted August 31, 2022 Posted August 31, 2022 We really need some context: is this a first date? First meeting with someone you are meeting offline for the first time. Or is this someone you met in real life and you picked up that there was good energy between you two. The context makes all the difference. 1
Author Logo Posted August 31, 2022 Author Posted August 31, 2022 We have known each other for a few weeks and have been on a few dates too.
Lotsgoingon Posted August 31, 2022 Posted August 31, 2022 If you sense some romantic energy, then just follow your own bliss. Good movie and walk around an interesting neighborhood afterwards. Walk through a beautiful park. If the romantic energy is really clear--and you're clear she's interested--then you can go further. Pick an activity that really interests you. Start there. What fun thing would you like to do? Then propose it. Stay out of her head. Propose your idea and see how she reacts. Really, if she's interested, she'll be fine with whatever you propose.
Els Posted August 31, 2022 Posted August 31, 2022 Do you prefer indoors or outdoors? Outdoors depends entirely on where you live and what the weather is like there at the moment , but if it's warm-ish, a picnic is super romantic, either in a park or at the beach. Bring a card or board game, if you play the guitar it's a nice addition. Mini-golf is heaps of fun, if you have one nearby, or otherwise zoos/aquariums/wildlife sanctuaries. Some people like hiking or sports as well, but that sort of activity doesn't scream "date" to me personally. For indoors stuff, we like going to the arcade together (either a regular arcade or the retro variety), bowling, and pool/billiards. We also like museums and art galleries, but they aren't great for laughing in, lol. I know you said no restaurants, but Korean BBQ is often a hit with couples, especially if it's something she's never done before. You get to experiment with cooking the meat together, so it's more engaging than just waiting to be served. 1
Ami1uwant Posted August 31, 2022 Posted August 31, 2022 Don’t know where you live or what you have in your area…. 1. museums 2. street festival or farmers market 3 parks, lakes, beaches, hiking 4.sports related activities or skating, biking, boating 5. Other things you might watch or view things that coukd start a conversation or learn more about them like an interest they have. 2
Lotsgoingon Posted September 1, 2022 Posted September 1, 2022 Think about an activity you've longed to do ... but haven't. Ask her to that!
Clarity1 Posted September 1, 2022 Posted September 1, 2022 16 hours ago, Logo said: We have known each other for a few weeks and have been on a few dates too. By now you should know relatively what she enjoys and doesn't. Don't overthink it, just suggest something you think would be enjoyable for the both of you and give her the option. If she doesn't like the idea she'll probably tell you no or suggest something else.
Wiseman2 Posted September 1, 2022 Posted September 1, 2022 17 hours ago, Logo said: We have known each other for a few weeks and have been on a few dates too. It's ok to get some ideas from her too.
basil67 Posted September 1, 2022 Posted September 1, 2022 20 hours ago, Logo said: We have known each other for a few weeks and have been on a few dates too. So why the need for such distraction from conversation? Are you struggling to keep each other engaged?
Els Posted September 1, 2022 Posted September 1, 2022 (edited) 5 hours ago, basil67 said: So why the need for such distraction from conversation? Are you struggling to keep each other engaged? It's different strokes for different folks, obviously, but for me, doing activities together where we "laugh, scream, and are caught up in the moment together" is a huge bond strengthener. Being able to do that AND have deep conversations with the same person at other times, is incredibly important to me - I don't want to have to pick one or the other. It matters a lot to me to be able to see if we gel in a way that goes beyond just talking, if we can have fun doing things together. Basically, I needed to see if that person can be a buddy as well as a date/lover. And for H and I, that is a core foundation of our relationship. Edited September 1, 2022 by Elswyth
mrs rubble Posted September 3, 2022 Posted September 3, 2022 Go to a live comedy show, I took my husband to his first one ever a few weeks ago. He loved it. Also an escape room or murder mystery could be fun.
chrysalis3 Posted September 3, 2022 Posted September 3, 2022 On 8/29/2022 at 11:12 PM, Logo said: I’m trying to plan a date that involves us doing something together, an activity where we’re not sitting across a table from each other or talking all the time, something fun, engaging, something where we can both get lost in the moment laugh, scream, joke, etc. Can you share some ideas? I know, it’s as fun as you make it, but still, you know what I mean. How about a cooking class? Learning to create a new dish together can be a mix of a challenge, fun and humor.
basil67 Posted September 3, 2022 Posted September 3, 2022 1 minute ago, chrysalis3 said: How about a cooking class? Learning to create a new dish together can be a mix of a challenge, fun and humor. Such a great idea...I'd love this. Just gotta make sure their taste buds aren't too fussy... 1
chrysalis3 Posted September 3, 2022 Posted September 3, 2022 1 minute ago, basil67 said: Such a great idea...I'd love this. Just gotta make sure their taste buds aren't too fussy... Haha. That makes sense. 1
basil67 Posted September 3, 2022 Posted September 3, 2022 (edited) 23 minutes ago, chrysalis3 said: Haha. That makes sense. Of course, discovering fussy taste buds could signal incompatibility.... @Logo broadly speaking, I'd be sorely disappointed with some of the some suggestions in this thread. Not to say that they are bad suggestions, but rather, the fact that one person likes it does not mean another will. As a perfect example, my own suggestion of a morning on the beach followed by lunch and beer is not for everyone. You need to plan something which resonates for both of you, not what resonates for randoms on a thread, Edited September 3, 2022 by basil67
Wiseman2 Posted September 3, 2022 Posted September 3, 2022 Amusement park? Maybe she likes rollercoasters and such? You could win her some of those stuffed animals for a good laugh.
Author Logo Posted September 6, 2022 Author Posted September 6, 2022 We talked about it and figured out a few activities that we both liked. Thank you for all the suggestions! 1 1
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