Is he interested?

[BrinnM]

9 minutes ago, ohjess said:

Do you suggest I just not do anything now? 

I mean, you can shoot him a quick message, if you’re wondering if you’re still “on”, as it has been 3 days of silence on his part. That might (might!) give you some clarity wrt his interest level. It’s not like you’ve got anything to lose, as you haven’t even met yet. 

[ExpatInItaly]

11 minutes ago, ohjess said:

I definitely have asked him things and he's done the same. 

I am confused, OP. 

Your earlier comment made it sound as though you haven't really been asking him anything. 

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, ohjess said:

We have gone back and forth a bit, a few sort of jokes and cheeky comments. I definitely have asked him things and he's done the same. 

No one is "too busy" for what interests them. Keep in  mind you are both still talking to and meeting others. So if he's 'busy', it's meeting other women in person rather than chatting , banter, questions etc., which is Not the point of online dating. Online dating is to meet people not engage in messaging, texting, social media, jokes, questions, etc.

[ohjess]

Thanks, everyone. Maybe I am a bit too invested, but I just felt like we had a fair bit in common. Very similar music. Whilst I'm not directly in the medical field, have done research in a similar field that he currently works in so that as well. Just felt *right*. 

[Weezy1973]

39 minutes ago, ohjess said:

Thanks, everyone. Maybe I am a bit too invested, but I just felt like we had a fair bit in common. Very similar music. Whilst I'm not directly in the medical field, have done research in a similar field that he currently works in so that as well. Just felt *right*. 

A bit too invested?!? Any sort of investment is not warranted yet and it will cause dating burnout. Just move on. If he messages you again great, if not, no big deal. It wasn’t meant to be. 

[stillafool]

1 hour ago, ohjess said:

Thanks, everyone. Maybe I am a bit too invested, but I just felt like we had a fair bit in common. Very similar music. Whilst I'm not directly in the medical field, have done research in a similar field that he currently works in so that as well. Just felt *right*. 

You can always find a guy who likes similar music as you as well as even more things in common as this guy.  Just list them on your dating profile.  No big deal.

[basil67]

On 8/25/2022 at 10:37 PM, ohjess said:

Thank you. However, given his work etc I think it's a bit unrealistic that he would be expecting me to be constantly asking questions. I don't think he would have the time to be answering them either. I don't want to suffocate him as to my fewer questions. Do you suggest I just not do anything now? 

There's a vast difference between suffocating someone and simply holding up your end of the conversation.  At present, your lack of questions to him will likely be interpreted as 

a) that you're self focussed

b) you don't know how to hold up a conversation

c) you're not interested

d) too much hard work on his part

None of these are good outcomes.  Given that he would be contacting you when he's got time to converse, what is behind your decision to not engage properly?

[NuevoYorko]

Why struggle to orchestrate what he's going to think of you, instead of  letting him get to know who you really are - and, of course, getting to know him, too?  

 

[smackie9]

You are being overly invested emotionally. You two are strangers in a sea of other opportunities. He's checking out/dating other options. Request a quick phone call and see how that goes.