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1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

You have to ask him if he wants FWB or an exclusive relationship

He said he doesnt want a relationship 

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Asking for a girl my fwb is/was infatuated with for several months. We ve been fwbs since July

He was really petty towards her for not chasing him or texting him and was always passive aggressive about it.

But then the girl started touching him on his back and asked him if he was doing something on the weekend. He told her he had work (he works at a restaurant in the evenings as a casual waiter)

After 2 days, she asked him in person (didnt text) she asked him if he was free in the evening today of tomorrow, he said he wasn't and started saying he has friends coming to see him and he's working or meeting someone.

He also wasn't saying anything on his own and then said he is free during the day on Friday. He also didn't stare at her much like how he has done before.

So I'm assuming he lost interest in her?

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2 minutes ago, GeraniumCostello said:

So I'm assuming he lost interest in her?

Why not ask him? 

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12 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said:

Why not ask him? 

If I could ask him I wouldn't ask here. 

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2 minutes ago, GeraniumCostello said:

If I could ask him I wouldn't ask here. 

Why can’t you ask him? 

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3 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said:

Why can’t you ask him? 

Because I overheard their conversation and do you actually think I will tell him I was overhearing.?

Now can you please reply to my question?

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16 minutes ago, GeraniumCostello said:

Because I overheard their conversation and do you actually think I will tell him I was overhearing.?

Now can you please reply to my question?

I, nor anybody else can read his mind. He could have lost interest, or he could be doing what he needs to do to get her attention (seems to be working). Why does it matter? 

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1 hour ago, GeraniumCostello said:

he said he wasn't and started saying he has friends coming to see him and he's working or meeting someone.

He's got a new girl he's trying to cultivate something with so he told her he wasn't available that day.  He'll still have sex with her and you too so don't worry.  Are you afraid he's going to trade you in for a brand new FWB?  You've been here before asking this question but under a different name.

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5 minutes ago, stillafool said:

He's got a new girl he's trying to cultivate something with so he told her he wasn't available that day.  He'll still have sex with her and you too so don't worry.  Are you afraid he's going to trade you in for a brand new FWB?  You've been here before asking this question but under a different name.

What is he trying to cultivate with when he's saying he's not available??? 

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45 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said:

I, nor anybody else can read his mind. He could have lost interest, or he could be doing what he needs to do to get her attention (seems to be working). Why does it matter? 

But he lost interest??? What do you think?

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Hang on: You’re asking this question on behalf of your FWB? Whose infatuated with another guy? …

New one to me on love shack! 
 

Anyway he’s not interested in her. If someone is romantically interested in someone else they will jump at the chance of seeing them. Im not sure why you are asking this question? You think he’s playing a game whereby he’s secretly in love with her and wants her to chase him? ….

No and no. 
 

The good news for you is that you keep her as a FWB for a little bit longer. 
 

Why don’t you date her properly just out of interest? 

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10 minutes ago, Calmandfocused said:

Hang on: You’re asking this question on behalf of your FWB? Whose infatuated with another guy? …

New one to me on love shack! 
 

Anyway he’s not interested in her. If someone is romantically interested in someone else they will jump at the chance of seeing them. Im not sure why you are asking this question? You think he’s playing a game whereby he’s secretly in love with her and wants her to chase him? ….

No and no. 
 

The good news for you is that you keep her as a FWB for a little bit longer. 
 

Why don’t you date her properly just out of interest? 

I'm a girl and she's not my fwb . He's my fwb

Did you even read the full post?

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You posted this recently, under a different username. 

Did you not like the responses you got last time? 

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15 minutes ago, GeraniumCostello said:

But he lost interest??? What do you think?

Why does it matter? 

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1 minute ago, ExpatInItaly said:

You posted this recently, under a different username. 

Did you not like the responses you got last time? 

There is new info and that post had he likes her. So now he told her how busy he is and how he's only available on Friday during the day. So now can you tell me how he likes her?

Even the above user said he doesnt

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2 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said:

Why does it matter? 

Because he can finally move on after being stuck on her

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He doesn't like either of you that much. 

Same response I gave you last time. 

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2 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

He doesn't like either of you that much. 

Same response I gave you last time. 

I only asked about her. At least he never declines to see me

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Just now, GeraniumCostello said:

I only asked about her. 

And I answered that. 

 

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43 minutes ago, GeraniumCostello said:

What is he trying to cultivate with when he's saying he's not available??? 

How would I know this?  

He said "he's working or meeting someone".  He's probably got another girl he's meeting since this one played hard to get for so long.  But it doesn't mean he is no longer interested in her.  It's just now he's also interested in someone new (that YOU don't know).  He'll never stop being a FWB and be your boyfriend if that is what you want.  

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41 minutes ago, GeraniumCostello said:

I'm a girl and He's my fwb

Is this ok with you? It seems like you would like a relationship/BF but all he is offering is no strings sex so he can play around.

My advice? Delete and block him And All his people from all your social media and messaging apps. Get a good profile and pics on some quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting men who want what you want. Why wring your hands over a guy who treats you as disposable?

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13 minutes ago, stillafool said:

How would I know this?  

He said "he's working or meeting someone".  He's probably got another girl he's meeting since this one played hard to get for so long.  But it doesn't mean he is no longer interested in her.  It's just now he's also interested in someone new (that YOU don't know).  He'll never stop being a FWB and be your boyfriend if that is what you want.  

If he was interested he would jump on the chance. Not say he's only free on Thursday and he's not meeting anyone anymore. He told me once he's meeting someone and it was his best friends girlfriend 

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38 minutes ago, GeraniumCostello said:

Because he can finally move on after being stuck on her

So are you happy now?

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Just now, GeraniumCostello said:

If he was interested he would jump on the chance. Not say he's only free on Thursday 

Okay.  Are you happy now?

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4 minutes ago, GeraniumCostello said:

If he was interested he would jump on the chance. Not say he's only free on Thursday 

Above you said Friday during the day.

Me thinks he's got a new girl.

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