a4a Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 The pinned thread about "giving him sex at anytime" prodded me to start this thread! I am one of those NYMPHO women that sometimes outta the blue just want some lovin'! I am really not a nympho but I guess would be classified as one because I admit : I want it! LOL! Once a day, or 3-4 times a week, as time allows. Sex is great! It is a stress reliever, feels good, and is cheap entertainment! LOL! It does not always have to be out of a "movie scene".... with a build up of of romance, suffering, or expectations. A shower quickie can "get er' done". LMAO! I suppose it also depends on your partner.....if he is "qualifed"? LOL! It's funny though I have had a few partners that love this, and others that just terrified of it. I guess they enjoy the women + sex = taboo is a turn on factor??? (Men answer this one). I would have to agree that too much of a good thing becomes a bore eventually. I think many times woman use sex as a power card... I feel for the men that have to deal with this.......and for the woman that use it to get control of part of the relationship (your missing out)! Now come on ladies...... have you not just looked at your partner and just wanted to ..... well, you know, ravage them? Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. I seem to be the one to initiate sex 99% of the time.....of course maybe getting a man warmed up is easier in some cases. LOL! Just curious about those out there who have a "frigid" man...... If your are one, why? a4a - Just because you read it in a book does not mean its right.
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 I am one of those NYMPHO women that sometimes outta the blue just want some lovin'! I am really not a nympho but I guess would be classified as one because I admit : I want it! LOL! Once a day, or 3-4 times a week, as time allows. This is perfectly normal, not nympho. It's a myth that women don't want it as much guys and don't want to initiate. Individuals differ.
Author a4a Posted October 25, 2005 Author Posted October 25, 2005 Hummm tonight........well, heck I hope so! But with my DH! (If you got a good hot meal at home.......there is no reason to eat out!) LOL! I hope? If I feed him and talk about woodworking (no pun inteneded) watch HGTV with him and get his fire lit. LMAO! ************************************************** I was at a party not long ago among 98% married couples, ( I hang out with the guys, while the women chat kids in the kitchen)....(wonder if that is why some of the women dislike me? ) Sex of course came up*again*..... I am to the point with our friends and said point blank "my husband has to provide often or I get irritated"......they looked shocked. Then looked to him like he was the luckiest guy in the room. LMAO! Mind you this is not a church group...... nor a bunch of dirtbags. But we chat about anything. If their wives knew what they said out there about other women the men would probaby never get "any"! LMAO! However, I can state beyond a shadow of a doubt, my husband does not and has never talked about women the way they do........maybe I have just made him too damn tired to do so! LMAO! BTW I sent my husband a "to the point" email proposing a mutual benefiting relationship after we had known each other for about 8 months....... we fell in love and got married about a year later....... I was not going to sit back and wait to get what I wanted..... a simple no strings attached business like email got my foot in the door.......he is a very shy guy. I would consider him semi- frigid. But, he is friggin HOT! I am not too bad myself......so I don't have a problem getting him into defrost mode too often. a4a
Mz. Pixie Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Well, here I am! I wouldn't call my husband frigid, but sex is a higher priority for me than it is for him sometimes. I think that's because I'm in my late 30's and my sexual prime. Also, I didn't have really great sex in my last marriage, so this time I'm making up for lost time. I RARELY ever am not interested. I was joking with him the other night about how many men would love to have his problem and he said, "I'm just glad I said I do first." :lmao: This morning I said I was tired and he said, "Well how about I cook you a good dinner tonight and we have great sex and go to bed early." Sugar, you are speaking my language!
lilmoma1973 Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 I hear ya !!! I can do with it or do without it either way!! I guess it is where im not getting what i need out of my relationship emotionally.. I want to be wined and dined sometimes and shown that im loved respected and appreciated !!! I do not use this as a tool !! Im a giver and my h is a taker and i think h needs to give to me a little more appreciaton and repect than he does !! Don't get me wrong i like sex but i want more than sex !! I want intimacy outside the bedroom as well as the bedroom !! I think once you get married the hugging and kissing and showing affection starts to deminish over the years !! I think that only happens while your in the dating phase and then once you got them you feel whats the need !!! That is my opinion of married people taking each other for granted and in turn you don't want to be sexual
Author a4a Posted October 25, 2005 Author Posted October 25, 2005 No offense Lilmoma but keeping the fires burning is your responsibility too. Turn it up a notch. Lets face it "love" is a selfish act. You are with the person because they make YOU feel good in some way.... it may even just boil down to their wallet size..... but you are getting something out of the relationship or you would find a way out. Even if it is not healthy for you, people stay in relationships because they are getting something out of it regardless good or bad. If you want to be wined and dined........ wine and dine him first....or something he enjoys. This thread was actually created to have women post with "high sex drives" or men to post why they are not interested in sex with their partners....... how to deal with it......and enjoy it, and how to keep your man "turned on" in a LTR. Not trying to be offensive to you........but if you want your man to show you affection....make sure you do the same.(Don't know if you do or not.If you don't get want you need or want, then consider moving on after you have exhausted all possibilities. a4a Life is short......if I want a crumb in bed I will eat crackers just before I fall asleep.
hotgurl Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 I have a very high sex drive and wanyt if often and in a varity of ways.
slubberdegullion Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 hotgurl... how about you? bizzy tonight? oh, I'm SUCH a manwhore!
JadeStar Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 hotgurl... how about you? bizzy tonight? oh, I'm SUCH a manwhore! LMAO
Tangerina Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Haha, thats me. I basically told my boy that unless I am too tired, too cold, too sick, or too depressed or mad, or too sore from last time, then I will probably be into it. My boy and I are very sexually compatible, but we only see eachother on weekends because of attending different colleges and so our philosophy is to do it as much as possible when we are together, but often I find myself proposing a little bit of doin' it when it is just a bit too much for him. If he is stressed or has a lot going on then he has a hard time getting really into the idea if he feels he is missing some vital task or sleep that he needs to function.... I don't worry about that stuff as much so pretty much any time I get him alone on weekends I make it clear I am ready when he is... I get lucky often enough that I am happy... one weekend we only saw each other for 24 hours and we did it 4 times, that was plenty, this last weekend we were together for 3 nights and did it a total of 3 or 4 because he hurt his back on Saturday, I probably would have been happier with one or two more times...
basscatcher Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 This thread was actually created to have women post with "high sex drives" .....how to deal with it......and enjoy it, and how to keep your man "turned on" in a LTR. MY GOSH--this is my language!!! High SEX drive. I got it here!! BUT unfortunately I can utilize it at this time.. IT SUX'S!! My last 3 LTR were highly active. I have been teased at being called a nymph.. I've had all three of them complain because I have such a high drive and they were tired, sore, needed a long break.. They couldn't keep up with me!!.. It goes like this: 1x per day at the least, If time available 2 times woiuld be preferred. I like mornings--early mornings before the alarm clock goes off. Another good time is when we come back home from a evening out clubbing. There is sexual energy in the air.. I like a mutual give in take in a relationship, I like to take control at times then other times I want the man to take control... NOW-- I'm in the beginning of a new relationship and its moving along really slowly. It's definetly different for me. I'm sexually frustrated but its a nice frustration because I havent felt this much respect from a man since High School. He is affectionate but we are holding off doing the deed!! I don't know how long we are holding off but I think when it happens there will be alot of energy in the air... Wonder if he can seriously handle me once we start? haha:lmao: :lmao:
lilmoma1973 Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 I do what for my h all the time ... He does nothing for me !!! I'M SORRY BUT I ALREADY STATED HE IS A TAKER AND IM THE GIVER!!! I don't get what you mean!!
lilmoma1973 Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 A4a how long have you been with this particular man?
Art_Critic Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 I think when it happens there will be alot of energy in the air... Energy won't be the only thing in the air ..
Blackfrost Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 damn crazy women.......where were you when I was 18. Now that I'm 37, having sex isn't nearly as interesting (or all hormonally consuming) - I've got plenty of other cool things to do (especially now that I'm not as poor as I was when I was 18). You'll get it twice a week and like it! now settle down and stay out my audio / video / game room
basscatcher Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Energy won't be the only thing in the air .. What else will be in the air?? Tell me please!! Give me the visual!! :lmao:
basscatcher Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Funny thing: When I was married I hated sex. Reason being: *He wasn't affectionate *He was forceful *He didn't use foreplay *He harrassed me to do things I wasn't interested in. *He was selfish *Mostly--He had really really really really bad hygiene. *He wasn't gentle--the man was too long for me and would hurt me so bad I would double over in so much pain I couldn't breath. I would hurt for days. How can a woman enjoy her sexuality with a man when he is such a turnoff.. Thanks to the men after him I found my sexuality and enjoy it very much.. Not all men are pigs.. Literally!! The last two were wonderful teachers...
TheDiva Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Now come on ladies...... have you not just looked at your partner and just wanted to ..... well, you know, ravage them? Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. I seem to be the one to initiate sex 99% of the time.....of course maybe getting a man warmed up is easier in some cases. LOL! QUOTE] YEP I have and I do regularly too! I initiate more than half the time. "Diva Honey, I am tired!" he says "Well honey I want some of that!" I'm so horrible that I once told him to go on to sleep I would help myself:o
Author a4a Posted October 25, 2005 Author Posted October 25, 2005 Blackfrost: damn crazy women.......where were you when I was 18. Now that I'm 37, having sex isn't nearly as interesting (or all hormonally consuming) - I've got plenty of other cool things to do (especially now that I'm not as poor as I was when I was 18). You'll get it twice a week and like it! now settle down and stay out my audio / video / game room Well Sheesh......... If I chuck out our plasma TV and escient system will hubby get down to business more without prodding? Or should I have married a poor man? Or just any 18 year old? Or does it have to be a poor 18 year old without electronic gadgets and toys to keep us satisfied? Diva.... as for you helping yourself when he falls asleep: I call that using the slumber lumber......LMAO!!!!!!! a4a
TheDiva Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Diva.... as for you helping yourself when he falls asleep: I call that using the slumber lumber......LMAO!!!!!!! I don't tell him that often.......... But you know he hasn't once actually fallen asleep when I have told him that. He gets some extra energy somehow Well Sheesh......... If I chuck out our plasma TV and escient system will hubby get down to business more without prodding? Yeah! I am interested in the answer to this one also!
hotgurl Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 What else will be in the air?? Tell me please!! Give me the visual!! :lmao: your booty of course!
hotgurl Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 hotgurl... how about you? bizzy tonight? oh, I'm SUCH a manwhore! hopefully getting busy. he got it twice yesterday but I wnt more. he is working late so it doesn't look good for me:( btw who doesn't love a manwhore every now and again
basscatcher Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 your booty of course! My bootie?? I like being on top not like a dog!
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