alphamale Posted August 19, 2022 Posted August 19, 2022 11 hours ago, central said: I wouldn't care. Most of the women I dated, and including the one I married, were seeing others when we first started dating. Once we got far enough along to choose to be exclusive, we were. In my view, we chose each other knowing we'd had other options, deciding we were the best match based on experience, NOT because we had no other options. Sure, it's nice if you are a desirable match for many, but just happen to meet your ideal match when neither of you is dating anyone else. Life is usually more complex than that. Ok, fair enough…
Zona Posted August 19, 2022 Posted August 19, 2022 If she was really into you, she never would have slept with the other dude, or at the very least, not tell you about it. Definitely move on. She is not wife or girlfriend material.
Acacia98 Posted August 19, 2022 Posted August 19, 2022 On 8/18/2022 at 7:01 AM, reozeno said: Since we are not in relationship, i felt that i cant said much and also bit shock how casual she talk about it.i think i have develop bit of feeling. I dont feel good about it. Maybe she sleep around more. What should i go forward with this thing? Move on? Talk about it with her? @reozeno: The two of you appear to have a fundamental difference on views as to what is acceptable during dating. In addition, you say you don't feel good about her actions. That means you're incompatible. It would be a bad idea to move forward with dating. 3
salparadise Posted August 20, 2022 Posted August 20, 2022 On 8/18/2022 at 4:17 PM, Lotsgoingon said: She might have told you because she wants to be an aggressor, and she is planning to sleep with other men even while she hangs out with you. What is the context in which she told you this? Out of the blue? Or maybe to let you know who has the upper hand here, and get you feeling jealous and confused. Or maybe she doesn't even know herself exactly why. Banging some other guy is one thing, telling you about it is quite another. It's almost certainly meant to trigger some type of reaction and feelings in you. It would be a deal breaker for me, and most men. In every relationship that I've had (except one) we became exclusive immediately without having to even talk about it. Or perhaps it's not actually exclusive unless you declare it, but either way neither of us dated or slept with anyone else after we started dating. I'm talking about 3-4 relationships or dating episodes. In the one exception she opened a dating profile online after I had expressed interest and asked her out. I knew at that point that she was doing so to elicit a reaction from me. I asked her about it and she basically admitted it. I knew right then that she would make me miserable if I got attached (she had some issues). We dated a few months but I always knew it wasn't going anywhere. The more I got to know her the more her issues were revealed. Anecdotal of course, but I'd advise you to make note. Best. 1
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