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.... told there MM that they have started seeing someone else, either to

 

1. Get a reaction

 

2. Get him off your back once and for all

 

See im really thinking of doing this but I cant figure out in my head why exactly I am doing this, just to see if anyone has done this and what reaction they got.

 

Thankyou

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You say you're not sure why you're doing it exactly, and I think that might be because what's in your mind is to move/change the situation in some way, any way, and it doesn't feel like it matters what, as long as you're not stuck in this any longer. Is that how it feels?

 

What I'd say is that playing games never really works out. If you want something different to happen, then think of something else, something honest. This probably won't do anything but harm.

 

Just my thoughts.

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Yeah your right, just to get out of the situation, we havent met or anything like that for a couple of months but speak nearly everyday on e-mail, Ive just turned down an evening out to keep it that way.

But Im obsessed with my e-mail just checking to see if hes e-mailed etc, I thought if I played him at his own game, I could get a reaction maybe finding out what really is going on in his head and why he cant do NC. But doesnt mind not having the physical aspect

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In everything to do with relationships I'd always say... be honest. Don't play games.

 

Have you tried just asking him what he's thinking and taking him at his word? Sorry I don't know you, so I don't know whether you're scared to do this or not, or what your feelings might be, or what your history with this man is.

 

Have you thought about, rather than making up some other scenario you're involved in... just take up that offer of a night out?

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Hi Sami thanks for posting back,

 

Same old senario really got involved shouldnt have 2 yrs he leaves W lives with me, decides he needs to stay at W's house when he is babysitting I chuck him out, go NC 8 mnths bump into each other again starts again now trying to be just friends......... apart from Im infatuated in a big way still if i take up his offer I know what will happen, the sexual chemistry is unbelieveable. So better to just keep away, im on Uk time and about to go home.

 

Bye for now x

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Ah right. Sorry, I thought the 'night out' was with friends and away from him! Ooops. Sorry I sent the wrong message!!

 

So is he back with his wife? Is he still pursuing you? Do you think its just sexual on his/your part?

 

(I'm on UK time too but work from home)

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