whiplash Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Been seeing this girl for a few months. Why can't I just relax? I need reassurance and crap. I like my ego stroked. Don't want to be high maintenance like she says I am. She tells and shows me she loves me so wtf is my problem? I realize that everyone has off days and can't be lovy dovy all the time. Why does it bother me when she doesn't show it when I know she cares?
Outcast Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Because you are insecure, you don't trust that she loves you, and you're fearful. And you cannot allow those emotions to get the better of you. When they come up, just talk them back down again. The way life works is that the less clingy you are, the more people will respond to you.
Cecelius Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Whatever reason you are being the way you are being, when your g/f tells you you are high maintenence, it's basically over-- she is going to start scoping out dudes at parties who have some guts. You need to fake it until you are genuinely secure. Women have the option of being insecure, men do not.
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Go see a therapist and work this out. In the meantime, do your best to relax - Cecilius is exaggerating, but the fact that your gf is complaining shows that it's not helping your relationship.
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