Change in physical type

[Bantosm]

One of my friends has changed her physical type from men with an athletic builds to obese builds with her last three boyfriends all 280 lb or bigger. It's her business who she decides to be with. I never seen anyone change their type like she did so I'm curious. Have you ever changed your physical type and if so what do you think caused you to make the change?

[Wiseman2]

9 minutes ago, Bantosm said:

I never seen anyone change their type like she did so I'm curious. Have you ever changed your physical type and if so what do you think caused you to make the change?

Not everyone has a specific type. 

[stillafool]

5 hours ago, Bantosm said:

Have you ever changed your physical type and if so what do you think caused you to make the change?

Yes.  I'm a woman who has always gone for the athletic build on a man.  I met a guy back when I was dating who was obese with a good looking face and fabulous hair.  We got into a conversation and he asked me out.  I ended up falling so hard for this guy it made me ill.  It took me a long time to get over him.  So never say never.

[FMW]

I'm a woman, I don't have a physical type. 

In my teens and twenties I dated guys of various heights, builds and coloring.  

Since my divorce 6 years ago I've been involved with (1) a 5'8" guy with blond hair and a slim build, (2) a 6 ft guy with black hair and athletic build, and (3) my guy now is 6'7" with a shaved head with a naturally bigger (not fat) build because of his height.  

[basil67]

When I was a young teen, my imaginary boyfriend looked like early 80's Christopher Atkins or Judge Reinhold in Fast Times at Ridgemont High.  Slim, blonde, Caucasian.

But when I started actually dating, I found myself attracted to the appearance of many different men....none of whom have looked like either of them.  And as my city grows more and more multi cultural, I've also become very favourably accustomed to the looks of men who are of different cultural backgrounds from me.   Life's too short to pigeonhole yourself into just having one type.   

And of course, who they are ultimately matters more than looks for me anyway.

[Bantosm]

1 hour ago, stillafool said:

Yes.  I'm a woman who has always gone for the athletic build on a man.  I met a guy back when I was dating who was obese with a good looking face and fabulous hair.  We got into a conversation and he asked me out.  I ended up falling so hard for this guy it made me ill.  It took me a long time to get over him.  So never say never.

Did you change your type after that relationship? 

[basil67]

@Bantosm what gives you the idea that people only have one type?  Or that they only date their type?  

[Weezy1973]

I think folks are missing the point of the post a bit. It’s not about people who don’t have a type. It’s about people that do have a specific type. In the example a woman had a specific body type she was attracted to (athletic build) and then it changed to a different specific type (obese). 
 

For me, I’ve broadly had the same physical type my whole life, and don’t expect that to change. 

[FMW]

Maybe she didn't necessarily have a type, maybe she previously tended to be around athletic or fit guys because of her own activity interests and that's who she mostly met.  Maybe her job or lifestyle has changed, and being around a variety of people she discovered she liked larger men.  Our tastes can change as we experience more of life.

Although I'm familiar with the concept of having a type, my own experience and observing friends and family has been for most there was no consistent physical type.

[stillafool]

15 hours ago, Bantosm said:

Did you change your type after that relationship? 

No, I went back to dating my usual type.  I just fell hard for that guy.

[glows]

On 8/2/2022 at 12:18 PM, Bantosm said:

One of my friends has changed her physical type from men with an athletic builds to obese builds with her last three boyfriends all 280 lb or bigger. It's her business who she decides to be with. I never seen anyone change their type like she did so I'm curious. Have you ever changed your physical type and if so what do you think caused you to make the change?

Yes, a person can change or evolve. Or discover new things about themselves. 

[Bantosm]

12 hours ago, FMW said:

Maybe she didn't necessarily have a type, maybe she previously tended to be around athletic or fit guys because of her own activity interests and that's who she mostly met.  Maybe her job or lifestyle has changed, and being around a variety of people she discovered she liked larger men.  Our tastes can change as we experience more of life.

Although I'm familiar with the concept of having a type, my own experience and observing friends and family has been for most there was no consistent physical type.

I've known her for years. She had definite type until last year and now she has a new type. 

[basil67]

Does she have a new "type"?  Or has she started being flexible about who she dates? 

[Bantosm]

3 hours ago, glows said:

Yes, a person can change or evolve. Or discover new things about themselves. 

Obviously, however I have never known anyone else who suddenly changed their physical type. So far, no one who has read this thread here has confirmed a similar change.

[Bantosm]

5 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Does she have a new "type"?  Or has she started being flexible about who she dates? 

A new type: the last three guys were all around 6 ft and 280+ lb. 

[basil67]

And the next guy could be slim.  Unless she's told you that she no longer has attraction to slim men, you really don't know if she is now going to limit herself to larger men.  Perhaps she's simply evolved and no longer judges a book by it's cover.

[Weezy1973]

9 minutes ago, Bantosm said:

A new type: the last three guys were all around 6 ft and 280+ lb. 

It can be difficult to let people know your type if it’s not socially acceptable. Perhaps she’s always been attracted to heavy guys but was embarrassed as it wasn’t the norm. And now she’s just being herself. Think of how many decades gay folks had to lie about their preferences. 

[Mrin]

Sure. I used to only be attracted to curvier, more full bodied women. Skinnier more slender women didn't do much for me. Now, I'm pretty sold on the Barbie slender type and less attracted to the curvier body types.

That being said a woman's body type is only a very minor factor as to my overall attraction to her. It's right up there with hair and eye color. There are so many other aspects to women that are far more important to me.

[Wiseman2]

On 8/2/2022 at 3:18 PM, Bantosm said:

. I never seen anyone change their type like she did so I'm curious. 

Are you interested in her? Are you worried whether you're her "type" or not?

People's tastes change with maturity and other factors. All that matters is what you are personally attracted to.

[La.Primavera]

It seems pretty obvious to me.  She is attracted to a man that is bigger and stronger than her.  It gives off that masculine vibe, that's what seals the deal for her.   

[giotto]

People's taste evolves...

[introverted1]

When I'm thinking abstractly, I have a type. But when I am meeting men in the real world, there are factors that can cause me to be attracted to someone who isn't my type. So it's not so much that my perfect-on-paper type has changed, but that the reality of an in-real-life man trumps the paper definition.

Edited August 4, 2022 by introverted1

[flitzanu]

so, OP, are you a guy that is more like her original "type" and she never gave you a chance, and now she is dating fat guys and it makes you wonder why you weren't good enough?

[basil67]

6 hours ago, introverted1 said:

When I'm thinking abstractly, I have a type. But when I am meeting men in the real world, there are factors that can cause me to be attracted to someone who isn't my type. So it's not so much that my perfect-on-paper type has changed, but that the reality of an in-real-life man trumps the paper definition.

Same for me.   A good match is about far more than what initially attracts the eye

[Bantosm]

14 hours ago, La.Primavera said:

It seems pretty obvious to me.  She is attracted to a man that is bigger and stronger than her.  It gives off that masculine vibe, that's what seals the deal for her.   

She's tiny, so most people are bigger and stronger compared to her.