Author Alpacalia Posted August 12, 2022 Author Posted August 12, 2022 On 8/9/2022 at 2:34 PM, NuevoYorko said: There are whole businesses doing specifically BLACK henna tattoos. They are longer lasting and look like real ink. It is the additive that makes them black which causes the (fairly common) skin reaction shown in the WebMD link I posted above. Yes, that's correct. In response to the earlier question, it consists of a one-color tattoo, with a darkish blue color of ink. There was a miscommunication between us, so he was under the impression I couldn't possibly be thinking that it was a real tattoo at all. That was my silly mistake. Not asking him and thinking it was a real tattoo.
Happy Lemming Posted August 12, 2022 Posted August 12, 2022 8 hours ago, Alpacalia said: That was my silly mistake. Not asking him and thinking it was a real tattoo. Logic would reinforce your conclusion that is was a real tattoo... Personally, I had never seen, nor heard of a dark blue or black henna tattoo. Similar to @basil67, my first and only exposure to the henna tattoo process was when I attended an Indian wedding and saw the bride with a design on her hands and arms. It was a reddish-brown color, since I didn't know other colors existed (and I've never seen other color henna tattoos) I thought ALL henna tattoos were this reddish-brown color. Most people would assume a tattoo like this was (in fact) a permanent tattoo and NOT a temporary henna tattoo. I think he should have disclosed that fact at the time you noticed it. Why the need to hide that important fact?? And what if you really really liked it, would he have been willing to have a tattoo artist put it on his body permanently?? And why this gesture to begin with?? Did he think this would reinforce the relationship?? Endear you to him, more?? 1
Author Alpacalia Posted August 12, 2022 Author Posted August 12, 2022 (edited) 36 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: Logic would reinforce your conclusion that is was a real tattoo... Personally, I had never seen, nor heard of a dark blue or black henna tattoo. Similar to @basil67, my first and only exposure to the henna tattoo process was when I attended an Indian wedding and saw the bride with a design on her hands and arms. It was a reddish-brown color, since I didn't know other colors existed (and I've never seen other color henna tattoos) I thought ALL henna tattoos were this reddish-brown color. Most people would assume a tattoo like this was (in fact) a permanent tattoo and NOT a temporary henna tattoo. I think he should have disclosed that fact at the time you noticed it. Why the need to hide that important fact?? And what if you really really liked it, would he have been willing to have a tattoo artist put it on his body permanently?? And why this gesture to begin with?? Did he think this would reinforce the relationship?? Endear you to him, more?? Yes, of course. According to what I know about black henna tattoos, they aren't safe, so I wonder why he would do that without first doing some research. It "looks" darkish blue but that could just be because it's fading. I suspect it was just like he said that he did not expect me to expect him to actually get a tattoo. What if I really liked it? Ideally, I would not expect him to get a permanent tattoo if that was the case. Regarding the gesture. No idea. Edited August 12, 2022 by Alpacalia
alphamale Posted August 14, 2022 Posted August 14, 2022 On 7/29/2022 at 10:32 AM, Alpacalia said: A man I have been dating recently received a promotion at work, and I wanted to do something meaningful to celebrate with him. With the help of his family and friends, I planned a small surprise party for him. The two of them went out a bit after I left, since I was pretty tired, and went out to continue celebrating. One thing that is kind of weird is that a few days later, when he and I were just lying around, snoozing and all that, I noticed my initial was on his left ankle. I laughed it off, thinking it was just something he drew in a pen to be cute, but I went to rub it off and it didn't move. In his words, he and his best friend went for drinks after the party and he had it tattooed. Getting inked for someone you're dating isn't really something we discussed. Even so, I have no idea if that tattoo existed before we started dating. Maybe he dated someone with the same initials before? He also leaves items of his behind sometimes when he comes over, like his socks or undershirt. Since we're older, I'm a little concerned about the tattoo thing. Isn't that what the younger folks do? Otherwise, he is great, and we have been getting along well. This just came out of left field. Would it make any sense for you to have someone's name tattooed on your body without even considering what they might think about it? If you like him don’t worry about it. Next time before sex just start sucking on his toes and casually comment about the tattoo. 1
Author Alpacalia Posted August 15, 2022 Author Posted August 15, 2022 On 8/13/2022 at 9:54 PM, alphamale said: If you like him don’t worry about it. Next time before sex just start sucking on his toes and casually comment about the tattoo. How else would I have found out about it in the first place?
alphamale Posted August 15, 2022 Posted August 15, 2022 3 hours ago, Alpacalia said: How else would I have found out about it in the first place? 1
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