jgolffan96 Posted July 18, 2022 Posted July 18, 2022 So I have struggled with OLD significantly. I have had a handful of dates over the course of a year but I either wasn’t interested or they ghosted/weren’t interested. I notice that a lot of girls leave their IG handle in their profile description. Is it okay to reach out to girls I see on their instagram if I don’t match with them? Also, although I put effort into messages that reflect something on the profile, I think girls get so many likes and messages or turn notifications off that they never get responded to. Or, I will get a little bit of exchange and then it fizzles, perhaps because I cannot hold their attention. Any advice on the messaging?
Wiseman2 Posted July 18, 2022 Posted July 18, 2022 (edited) 45 minutes ago, justasht said: I notice that a lot of girls leave their IG handle in their profile description. I would avoid those entirely. Sounds too much like someone circumventing the app subscription, utterly desperate for any attention or scammers. Edited July 18, 2022 by Wiseman2 1
Author jgolffan96 Posted July 18, 2022 Author Posted July 18, 2022 3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: I would avoid those entirely. Sounds too much like someone circumventing the app subscription, utterly desperate for any attention or scammers. No many of them are not scammers. They are real people. 1
flitzanu Posted July 18, 2022 Posted July 18, 2022 i mean, there's no laws that you can't message someone on insta, but it doesn't increase your chance that they're going to reply if they aren't communicating or matching on other sites
glows Posted July 18, 2022 Posted July 18, 2022 (edited) 5 hours ago, justasht said: So I have struggled with OLD significantly. I have had a handful of dates over the course of a year but I either wasn’t interested or they ghosted/weren’t interested. I notice that a lot of girls leave their IG handle in their profile description. Is it okay to reach out to girls I see on their instagram if I don’t match with them? Also, although I put effort into messages that reflect something on the profile, I think girls get so many likes and messages or turn notifications off that they never get responded to. Or, I will get a little bit of exchange and then it fizzles, perhaps because I cannot hold their attention. Any advice on the messaging? It may depend what app you're using. Have you tried paid ones? I'm not sure about others but yes there are a lot of messages. I can't speak for anyone else but I turned off notifications. If their IG handle is there, why not? It's obviously there to peruse and use. They may want to check you out too. Edited July 18, 2022 by glows
Trail Blazer Posted July 18, 2022 Posted July 18, 2022 Well, you can try... no harm in trying! I doubt you'll get a response, especially if they're "Insta worthy". From my experience, girls who put their Insta handle are looking for followers, not dates. Honestly, I couldn't imagine why any woman whose genuine intention it is to find a date would invite every guy on a dating app to message her on Insta. 2
Maldives Posted July 18, 2022 Posted July 18, 2022 (edited) 5 hours ago, justasht said: No many of them are not scammers. They are real people. There not but there just looking to build up there follower base. They are a total waste of your time. If you see em with selfies in bikinis or foodie posts just next em. Tbh dating apps especially for men are saturated woman definately have the benefit with hundreds in there inbox. Change your focus find a better medium that puts you in the driver's seat. I still say meeting people in real life nothing beats it. Edited July 18, 2022 by Goodguy05
basil67 Posted July 18, 2022 Posted July 18, 2022 I agree that they could just be looking for IG followers. It could also be that they are allowing men to see further pictures of what their life is like to garner more responses. However, unless their dating profile says "hey, contact me on IG", I'd say that sliding into DMs is considered a bit creepy. If she doesn't match with you on the app, you might be better off just moving on.
Wiseman2 Posted July 19, 2022 Posted July 19, 2022 Yes advertising a link to their IG account is not for dating purposes. Who does that? The point of dating sites is relative anonymity until you message and meet, not funnelling traffic to their IG account.
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